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Posted: 07 March 2007 at 10:41pm | IP Logged

Well obviously this is all my mind is thinking of 24 hrs aday atm i cant help but worry if ill make the right decision keep talkin to my bump telling it to kick one for c sec 2 for natural no such luck as it doesnt seem to respond in any helpful ways lol!

I keep thinking my main worry is natural may lead to another tear or worse the loss of my bowel control and possible the loss of my bladder (thats already started to go for now) control.

I cant think other then a scar and to bo honest i think thats a vein reason to have, of any main worries for a c sec i mean there is always risks and worries and i know it is major surgury but it seems to me the lesser of the 2 evils if that makes sense?!  I will b scared of both sorts of labour im sure most women are thou and just think my mind is telling me to go for c sec as althou it is surgury and a scar i am not likely to have incontenets (sp) problems after the birth as is likely of natural.

I had ventouse due to a rush to get skyla out as my bp had risen and so had my temp the chances of this again wud b high in the sense of i wud hav a epidural which often slows labour an as i am sure many are aware epidurals highten the chances of assisted deliverys because of the delay of labour etc. Reason i would have a epidural is because if i was to tear again the epidural wud stop me needing to be put to sleep for stiches in thetre, and helps to prevent me feeling the tear as you can imagine this would b painful if u wasnt numbed! and also speeds the process up if an emergency c sec is needed

well i dont know my final decision yet but i think i am swaying towards a c sec atm my family agree this would b best and jon (dp) also thinks that a c sec is best way for me i just feel like its such a massive decision and no one really seems to b in the exact same one as i am, in that most people are given no choice either they hav to hav a c sec or they arn't allowd and i am being told i hav the choice to choose and i feel like if i take a c sec could b having unnessery surgry and if i dont i could b making a massive mistake which ill live to regret!

Sorry a bit of a long post with prob nothing much then my thoughts and worrys just wanted to get it all down

Thanks for all your support and advice

Emma .

Posted: 08 March 2007 at 7:38pm | IP Logged

Hi,

I had a 3rd degree tear with Ethan, my first pg.  I had to see a consultant when I was pg with my daughter but he never mentioned having a c-section, only saw him the once for about 5 minutes.  When I was in labour with my daughter the mw was brilliant, she new I had a 3rd degree before so she advised me to lay on the bed to deliver and made me take it really slow.  Unfortunately, Ellie was born with her hand up to her face so I ender up tearing again - second degree this time.

Good luck!

Posted: 08 March 2007 at 7:47pm | IP Logged

It really does sound like ur swaying towards the c section

I had internal & external tearing & grazing & didnt feel it happening on only gas & air, u naturally numb down there when ur giving birth anyway

Good luck

Posted: 09 March 2007 at 6:57pm | IP Logged

I had a horrible tear 1st time round, right through my back passage, it was an episiostomy to begin with but as it was a ventuse delivery he yanked baby out and i tore really badly and lost a heck of a lot of blood.

I got pregnant just 4 mths later and had my little boy who was 8lb9 vaginally but the downside was my scar was very tight and unforgiving and they had to cut me, although i am thrilled i did it vaginally 2nd time round as i was up on my feet within days and although a little sore i was able to enjoy my little man so much more!

I did my 2nd labour all on my own, except for the pushing part where my contractions stopped...i then had a drip and loads of gas n air pmsl... There was no talk of a section during my pregnancy, despite the many complications i had first time round and the traumatic experience... I had a few problems with my bowels and bladder following my births, and now they seem to have gotten better, i just kept up the pelvic floor exercises and holding my "functions" as long as possible to tone up the muscles.

I hope this has helped, it is possible to have a normal birth following a horrific tear!

Posted: 20 March 2007 at 7:25pm | IP Logged

Hi all for those of you who i havent spoken to I have decided to have a c section! I am now having more problems getting one which is a bit annoying after all i was told i had the choice! Mw and doc both agree its best but the consultant at the hospital who said no in 1st place was the one id hav had to go bk to which i thought was silly as he is hardly just going to change his mind! So i thought ill get 2nd opinion and this isnt as simple as i thought to cut a long story short ive had to transfer to another hossie!! this hossie is same distance if not closer so should be ok to get to i have my 1st appointment tomorrow Wednesday in the morning this is where i find out if the consultant thinks the c section is right or not then if all goes to plan i should in theroy have a date as i am now 36+2! So just wanted to let you all know my choice and a little update hope i havent repeated myself to much!! or bored you all again he he

Thanks for listen to me girls you hav been loadsa help
Emma Skyla and Bump!

Posted: 20 March 2007 at 7:35pm | IP Logged

Glad you have now made your choice we know it wasn't easy for you.

Fingers crossed everything will go to plan and you get what you want. xxxxxx

Posted: 21 March 2007 at 3:10pm | IP Logged

Hi all got my c sec date 5th April so hopefully all will go to plan its only 10days before due so hopefully wont go into labour before lol!

thanks for all your help

Emma

Posted: 21 March 2007 at 4:59pm | IP Logged

Good luck hun. I'm glad its now all planned so you can look forward to your babies arrival.