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Posted: 27 March 2007 at 9:28pm | IP Logged

ok here it goes. i am compleatly off sex the now and dont know what is up. its been 1 months and poor dh.

 i feel like he is pestering me all the time. he started saying things like do you not love me any more or do you not fancy me any more. i do love him and do fancy him and tell him this all the time. this is making me feel guilty. 

i have neaver felt like this and neaver went this long before. I dont even want cuddles or kisses any more and i am a cuddly person.

I have just stared pnd tablets and also just had he implant too. i dont ant to tell my doc about this as it will get a panic attack.

any advice x   

Posted: 27 March 2007 at 9:36pm | IP Logged

Oh chuck, I sometimes feel like this It seems to happen at about the same time in my cycle, so I ut it down to hormones. That and being exhausted!

Maybe its a mixture of the implant and the tablets. I know when I had pnd, we didn't have sex for what seemed like ages!

If you fully talk it all through with your dp then I'm sure he will understand. Dean does similar, but as long as I'm honest with him, he understands and knows not to turn into a sex pest!

Posted: 27 March 2007 at 9:48pm | IP Logged

One month!  That's not bad.  My ex and I didn't have sex for months on end.  Mine was down to depression and exhaustion from running around after a tot and baby.  Once I got help for my depression (and got rid of my low life husband-lol) my sex drive returned with a vengence.

Now I can't get enough!!  I wear my man out!! lol

People make jokes about dwindling libidos, but it really isn't funny.  Sex shouldn't be just what a relationship is about, but without it it can open a whole lot of cracks, like it did my case

Loss of libido can be due to lots of things such as hormones, medical conditions (depression being high up there) and life's hurdles.  My advice will be not to suffer in silence, please go and see a doctor as there could be many factors involved and seeking advice may start to eliminate some of them.

Zo xxxxx

Posted: 28 March 2007 at 3:42am | IP Logged

I am two months postpartum now and had partial sex i guess...not having the whole comfort feeling to go completely into it...but its also from my loss of labido from my birth control, which are adding to my raging hormones..your not alone.

dont feel guilty...what i did was pleasure in other ways if i did feel guilty. best of luck to two of you!!

Posted: 28 March 2007 at 11:08am | IP Logged

dont worry hun this is normal, i felt like this up until a month ago from before i was pregnant with amber( dont even know how i got pregnant with her)

try telling your husband how you feel im sure he will understand,

good luck hun.

luv bev.