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Posted: 17 May 2007 at 6:36pm | IP Logged

All you can do is take it one day at a time, one foot in front of the other, and KEEP going.

It feels like a never ending struggle at times with money worries, young children, housing matters, being miles away from family and friends.  My hubby is also in the RAF same as Angelica, hes always away, we are at times a long way away from family, and friends come and go, we do have money worries, we have two young children and I have a serious medical condition with no guarantees, but you always find a part of you that keeps going.

At the end of the day you have each other and you have your children.  Do something each day that makes you happy..even if its only a stroll down to the end of the road and back again.

Its not as bad as what you think it is..it just feels like it mater.  There is a light at the end of the tunnel..just keep aiming towards it and you WILL get there.

See your gp, keep on the pills and just keep going, it will all work out chica

Posted: 17 May 2007 at 7:08pm | IP Logged

Hiya,

Iv never suffered from PND, so i have no words of wisdom to aid you in feeling better, but the girls on here who have, have a lot of good advice and support for you whenever you need it,

So i just wanted to let you know that im thinking of you and hope that with help, you can start to feel much better soon.

Amanda
x-x-x

Posted: 17 May 2007 at 7:53pm | IP Logged

hi im lina..im 27 and had my first baby unplanned. ive had some thoughts of harming myself as early as 12 years of age. if anything, i am glad you can express your concerns. i have  a depression buddy that i signed up with so i can tell my problems and get answers in private..so you can vent, cry , beat up anyone you can and hopfully feel better in the end. Im sure you heard it all..but almost 15 years later, i still have thoughts to leave this earth..but i too think im there for my new baby and thats what counts. nothing really gets better. some days it seem they are better but i think in the end, its what is the best way to get through each day or to make each day a little easier to live through right?? i know...well, you can private message me to talk in private or they have a great support system to click on the buddy scheme..they are a wonderful family to me and im sure for everyone here...believe me, i live all the way in california..and this is the best support i have is to go to the UK ( :D).......take a day at a time...i think thats the best thing that helps me everyday...take one day at a time k!

Posted: 17 May 2007 at 8:11pm | IP Logged

    I am so sorry you feel this way, I really hope you got some help from your gp. By the way welcome and my name is Nicky mum of 3, and I live in Scotland, but often visit Jersey as my sil lives in St Peters.

                 Take Care xxxxxxx

Posted: 20 May 2007 at 9:45pm | IP Logged

Gosh just found this post.  I'm so sorry you feel upset and sufferng with depression.  It makes it 1000 times harder when you have no friends around to support you, but believe me, this site is a lifesaver.  We all have different situations and we all help each other in different ways.

I would make a list of what is making you upset and prioritise them.  Set goals, even if they are just tiny goals like going to the end of the road and back for some fresh air.  Talk it over with your DP/DH.  Hopefully you can work as a team on working towards your goals.

Maybe a councellor will help also?  That's horrid you have to pay your GP!  Is that 30 pound every time?  What about if your children are ill?  Do they have to pay too?

Massive Hugs to you.  I'm Lorna from SW Scotland, xxxxxxxx

Posted: 24 May 2007 at 1:36pm | IP Logged

Hiya,

I've only just found this post and I'm reading it with tears in my eyes, I really wish I lived somewhere near you hun, for nothing else than to give you a big hug.. here's a cyber one anyway

You are not alone in this, ever.  You have two wonderful kids and a partner who care deeply about you and you now have all your friends on here and we're here for you anytime..

I'm jenny, by the way and I'm in Scotland with my two daughters & hubby.  I first experienced depression about 7yrs ago when we lived in Essex and I quite literally didn't know anyone.. It's been a long, long road but it really does get better hun and you can come out at the other end.  I've been off my anti-d's now for about 6mths and although I still have 'bad' days where I could run away (I'm on crutches so it'd be a bit difficult) I'm stronger mentally, and I know I'm allowed to feel down, it doesn't make a bad person or a bad mum.

Good luck at the doctors hun, it really hope he can help..

If you want some one-to-one support hun, just click on the 'help' link at the bottom of my signature and, as the others have said, someone who knows and understands exactly what you are going through will get in touch..

Take care hun..