Joined: 29 May 2007 United Kingdom Posts: 25 Gender: Female
Posted: 30 May 2007 at 7:46pm | IP Logged
any ov u lyk me whose babys dad dont seem 2 even give a *? im hopin ittl change when my babys born but if jus dont think hell want anything to do wit it his parents told mine they would help but still its annoyin.
Joined: 07 June 2006 United Kingdom Posts: 4141 Gender: Female
Posted: 30 May 2007 at 8:01pm | IP Logged
Cripes your typing takes some decyphering chica.
End of the day chica its your baby. Sounds like you have the support of your parents as well as his parents (to some extent). Time changes lots of things, he may not be interested now, but he may be interested later, you just never know. As long as your baby has you to love him/her then thats all that counts chick.
chin up, dont let it stress you out just enjoy (as much as you can) being pg cos it doesnt last forever.
Joined: 29 May 2007 United Kingdom Posts: 25 Gender: Female
Posted: 30 May 2007 at 8:06pm | IP Logged
Quote: steph
Cripes your typing takes some decyphering chica.
End of the day chica its your baby. Sounds like you have the support of your parents as well as his parents (to some extent). Time changes lots of things, he may not be interested now, but he may be interested later, you just never know. As long as your baby has you to love him/her then thats all that counts chick.
chin up, dont let it stress you out just enjoy (as much as you can) being pg cos it doesnt last forever.
Joined: 07 June 2006 United Kingdom Posts: 4141 Gender: Female
Posted: 30 May 2007 at 8:11pm | IP Logged
its bound to chica, just try not to let it get to you, doesnt do you any good apart from winding yourself up....we do have a single parenting buddy system available for use..just click on the button...
Oh yeah..you dont need to quote everything chica..had me confuzzled for a second when i saw your post lol.
Joined: 01 June 2006 Ireland Posts: 1625 Gender: Female
Posted: 30 May 2007 at 8:55pm | IP Logged
My cousin had her dd just before her 21st, the dad doesn't want anything to do with the baby. She baby is now 6 months old and her ex has only seen the baby once, when she was a week old.
My cousin is coping really really well and her view is that it is his loss.
Joined: 26 May 2007 United Kingdom Posts: 7 Gender: Female
Posted: 01 June 2007 at 12:43pm | IP Logged
My ex left me when i was 5 months pregnant, didnt want anything to do with me and baby, told me to drop dead and hope the baby dies and all that.
My DD is 2 and a half now and she sees her dad every fortnight and NOW he is being a "good" dad, so give it time, give him an opportunity to see the baby (unless he is violent or something like that obviously) and i recommend getting a solicitor for advice, you may qualify for legal aid, so that if he decides to take you to court you will be prepared. Also write a diary about everything that happens.
Joined: 11 June 2005 United Kingdom Posts: 3860 Gender: Female
Posted: 01 June 2007 at 1:31pm | IP Logged
I'm 32 weeks with my 5th baby. The 4 I have already are with my ex husband, the one I'm expecting now is with my new partner. I didn't plan this baby but as soon as I discovered I was pregnant my fiance said he'd be here every step of the way and support me as much as humanly possible. I've not seen him now since December, he's never been to a scan or MW appointment and he still lives with his mum 250 miles away.
What I'm trying to say is men can make a thousand promises but but when it comes to something as important as this they back away. Not all blokes are the same and some will be there for you. You have to think of you and the baby for now, nothing else matters. If he decides to be there for you then great, but if not you have to be strong and accept any help you can get to prepare you for this baby. Your life is going to completely change and you have to be prepared for it.
Get the pregnancy out of the way then concentrate on bringing up your baby, if your babies dad wants to be there then let him, if not, one day you'll meet someone who does want to be there for you and will treat your child as his own.
You're only a child yourself and you're in for some big changes.
Joined: 30 June 2005 United Kingdom Posts: 6718 Gender: Female
Posted: 02 June 2007 at 4:37pm | IP Logged
I am a single aprent and I have been for 4 years. My partner made me choose at around 5 months pregnant him or the baby, and well I still have the baby lol
Joshua's dad has wanted no involement ever, although during the later stages pregnancy he claimed he wanted to be a part of it and wanted to go get a pram etc. He never did any of it and everything my son has is from me or my family. His family stay in touch but they dont see Joshua often.
I am in the process of legally removing Joshua's dad from our lives, for very good reasons. However, like many have said give your baby's dad time. Your are only 15, assuming the dad is about the same age its a terrifying situation to be in. A situation that grown men find hard to deal with, never mind a minor. Not only will there be emotional complications for him, but there is likely to be legal ones to. He has got a minor pregnant, that doesnt come without consequences.
You need to concentrate on you and the baby. He can make his own mind up about what he wants to do. Once it has all sunk in hopefully he will want to play a part in your chil's life, however big a part that it. maybe once he matures a bit he'll realise the importance of what you have together created.
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