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Posted: 06 July 2007 at 11:33am | IP Logged

Leah has gone to her dads for the weekend.

Im not happy, I know that I am stupid for letting her go. Everyone is telling me Im stupid, but what else can I do he is her dad. I cant say no you cant have her.

I am worried he will do a runner with her and taking her back to his own country. My family keep telling me he will. I dont know if he is capable as he has no clue how to look after her for more than a few days. Also he has no passport and either does Leah. I have her birth certificate. The only way he could get back is if the goverment sent him or he asked to be returned and I doubt that they would let him leave the country with her and not ask about the mother.

With my family going on at me it makes me nervous and panicy. I didnt sleep a wink last night because it plays on my mind. I wont relax over the weekend till she is home safe with me.

I have talked to him a few times about my concerns and he said he would never do that because he knows Leah needs her mummy more than anything, but there again if he was planning of taking her he wouldn't tell me would he.

If I stopped her from seeing her dad then she would resent me when she is older. I resented my mum for doing it to me.

I just want my baby back.

Posted: 06 July 2007 at 1:53pm | IP Logged

Difficult situation for you - especially when she's still so young. At least my two can keep in contact with me independantly, as they have mobiles - if I relied on my ex keeping in touch, I'd never hear anything while they were away.

I'm sure everything will be fine. Give him a wee ring and set your mind at rest.xxx

Posted: 06 July 2007 at 2:38pm | IP Logged

hiya,well done for being reasonable with him and allowing them time together,much as it is hurting you and causing you to be anxious. as amanda said they wont be going anywhere without passports hun so dont worry,i agree you should give hima call and see how their getting on...it will put your mind at rest..

chin up hun hugs xxx

Posted: 06 July 2007 at 3:30pm | IP Logged

They cant get anywhere without a passport chicka..and in todays travel climate...not a bleeding chance.  If you are worried you can always get a residency order sorted out..they are not cheap but they will give you peace of mind.

Its good she can spend time with her dad, he will bring her back.  Try not to listen to whats being said.  She will be home in a few hours..thats the way I look at it when my eldest is away. 

Posted: 06 July 2007 at 3:39pm | IP Logged

Awww thanks ladies. Il gave him a ring and I could hear in the background she was happy playing and giggling.

Steph whats a residency order? I have never heard of one of these.

Posted: 06 July 2007 at 3:44pm | IP Logged

ahhhh a residency order says who the child lives with end of story.  You need to apply to the court for one under section 8 of the childrens act.  It will ultimately be a judges decision over wether or not he agrees to pass the order, so no guarantees about it. 

Basically a residency order replaced the old custody orders years back. 

Posted: 08 July 2007 at 5:32pm | IP Logged

Shes home now, safe and sound. God I missed her so much.

She hasn't eaten her dinner tho. I think she is still a bit off since she had the tummy bug.

This weekend has dragged now I can finally relax.