Joined: 13 June 2005 United Kingdom Posts: 8424 Gender: Female
Posted: 22 July 2007 at 11:07am | IP Logged
Please help me - its started!
Eds has always been a happy well behaved little boy who people praised us for. Over night he has turned into a monster. He HAS to have his way and he has to have it NOW! Last night bed time turned into a complete mess, with him screaming about everything! He wanted his milk, no he didnt want his milk, give me my milk, put my milk away. And so on!
This morning I was greeted by the same monster at just before 7am shouting and throwing himself into a pile on the floor.
DP is being no help - he either shouts back, tells him to shut up, or ignores him. Worse still I keep finding he gives into him after I have spent 20 mins not letting him have his way.
The two of them have gone out for an hour to give me a break - which I NEED!
So do you have any great tips for dealing with this wonderful stage?
(He did give me a gorgeous kiss and cuddle as he went out so he's back in my good books again temporarily.)
Joined: 07 June 2006 United Kingdom Posts: 4088 Gender: Female
Posted: 22 July 2007 at 11:18am | IP Logged
Grit your teeth, count to ten over and over again...and remember it doesnt last forever. This is where you need to download as much patience as you can. Its tough going..one day they are evil monsters..the next they are perfect angels...cant win i swear they are just psyching you out at times. This is where all your buttons will get pressed on a regular basis chick.
Hes not going to be overly aware of what hes doing as his little brain is now going through the next developmental stage and its well confusing for him. His independent streak is going to become more stubborn, hes going to be wanting stuff but not sure how to get it his body will tell him one thing, his brain will tell him another and his mouth...well good luck with that one birdy. It doesnt last forever, just persevere and keep doing what you are doing its the only way through...oh yeah and a glass or twooo of whatever takes your fancy when hes gone to bed in the evening helps to
Joined: 01 June 2006 Ireland Posts: 1625 Gender: Female
Posted: 22 July 2007 at 11:45am | IP Logged
I am right there with you madz.....Some days Rachel is great more she is a nightmare and she is not even 2 yet, lol.
May he is just acting up because you are just back from holidays and his routine was all over the place so it just might take a week or so for him to settle back in.
I just ignore bad behaviour as much as I possible can.
I just keep teeling myself ......it doesn't last forever...it doesn't last forever.....it doesn't last forever, lol.
Joined: 11 June 2005 United Kingdom Posts: 5915 Gender: Female
Posted: 22 July 2007 at 5:00pm | IP Logged
Advice, move house and don't tell Eds your new address. You have the choices your dp seems to be exercising quite well, ignore it, give in to it or shout. I do find that the naughty chair works quite well with Ols. I just use the dining room chair and put it in the middle of the room facing away from anything interesting. He doesn't move off of it until he says sorry or stops having a paddy. Ols throws himself around, bangs his head on the floor, bites and screams. It depends how tired he is to how I treat each episode. He is at his worst when tired. Regular healthy food, good routine especially for boys who seem to thrive on routine more than girls do, plenty of attention and regular bedtime. For you regular warm bath with a good book and a glass of wine normally gets you through the next 2 years until they start school which brings a whole load of new problems but at least the terrible twos are over by then....
Joined: 07 June 2007 United Kingdom Posts: 1213 Gender: Female
Posted: 22 July 2007 at 5:42pm | IP Logged
Well thats the bit i aint going to look 4ward to when we have a baby and i have to say i love sam's idea( move and dont give the addy) it made me chuckle lol.
Sorry i have got any advice well none i could possibly write lol nah only joking hope he gets out this stage as easily as poss.
Take care
Becky xx
*whats that i hear you say a large glass of white* LOL
Joined: 11 June 2005 United Kingdom Posts: 8520 Gender: Female
Posted: 22 July 2007 at 7:21pm | IP Logged
A ball and chain, cage and earplugs generally help! pmsl. Sorry MAdz, I'm there with you too! Also I have a 1 yr old with the same as he is learning from his smallest older brother! If Fred strops and says he doesn't want something, I'm sorry I'm heartless I take it off him, and he doesn't get it. He still hasn't got uesd to his big boy bed, so every night we have 2 hours of screaming, and every morning we have a 6am wake up call!
Joined: 17 June 2005 United Kingdom Posts: 4939 Gender: Female
Posted: 22 July 2007 at 9:00pm | IP Logged
Take some comfort in the fact that we're all in this together.
Louis can be an angel one minute and the devil the next.
I use the naughty spot, (red carpet tile on the floor in our hall) He gets a warning and goes straight on it if he ignores it. Other than that i turn off the tv/put books/ toys away whatever it is he's doing until he says sorry then he gets them back.
Like sam says it depends what has triggered his outburst.
Lots of choc, wine and baths are relaxation once bedtime has arrived are in order now until they outgrow it, Unless they are like Harrison and dont outgrow it
Joined: 29 June 2005 United Kingdom Posts: 2328 Gender: Female
Posted: 22 July 2007 at 9:00pm | IP Logged
im ther with you all too,bronia has recently taken on seans major attitude problem,shes like a lil "kevin"....if you ask her something it "whhhhhat?" and "whhhhy" she even talks through gritted teeth at me now with clenched fists,just mumbles as she walks away like shes growling at me,and if owt gets in her way shel just pick it up and throw it,including the cat!!! i have to say i find it better to laugh it off,obvisously behind a closed door so she doesnt think im impressed by it,as long as shes not being v rude or cheeky or causing any harm i just let her get on with it,i know itl pass and that shes not a nasty child so i dont worry too much and if im honest i think it helps that i know when i move out she wont be around sean as much and getting it off him so i recon she'l soon calm down,she always uses her manners and has a cuddle and a kiss and a "i love you mummy" for me so i dont mind!
and if all else fails i have all you lot to rant and rave at!! lol xxxx
Joined: 12 June 2005 Germany Posts: 801 Gender: Female
Posted: 22 July 2007 at 10:06pm | IP Logged
Oh yes... all the same symptoms Cerys is displaying. We have always been praised for her good behaviour and last weekend one of the people who had constantly been praising her suddenly came up to me and said 'CJ needs to learn what the word no means'.
Well I wasn't impressed at all he has two children himself both teenagers now so he has been through it as well. I gritted my teeth even though I really wanted to have a go at him and simply said 'Cerys knows what no means however she has just turned 2 and is testing the boundaries and trying to display her own independence... commonly known as the terrible twos'. One of the reasons his comment had upset me as well is because two days before this comment he turned round and said to me... 'perhaps you should reconsider having anymore children now you have seen what Cerys is like at this age'
Cerys also throws herself on the floor and headbutts it, which I ignore otherwise she does it harder. She pinches me and hits me sometimes which is a def 1 warning then the naughty step. When I get her from the naughty step and ask her why she has been there she always says it's because she hit / pinched mummy so she knows what she has done wrong, which is half the battle. She also throws things which I try to ignore depending on what it is as I can tell she is doing it for a reaction. Yesterday I walked out of her bedroom for a few minutes after she had smacked a book on my head... it really hurt as well. I did go back in and once again when I asked her why Mummy had been upset with her she said straight away it was because she had bashed Mummy's head.
The things I find the funniest is that she can be like this one minute then literally a minute later I might ask her if she would mind passing me a nappy for Seren and the instant reply I get is 'of course' and she goes and gets it and gives me a big kiss as she gives it to me. I also got the other day when she had her crayons in her hand and was drawing 'We mustn't draw on table must we Mummy' to which I said 'Good girl that right Cerys' and then she proceeded to draw on the table!!!
My auntie has told me that apparently, as Steph has said, their brains are going through a lot of changes and so they have a chemical imbalance and this is how they deal with it. I have decided to tackle it by trying my best to stay as calm as possible, using the naughty step after 1 warning and on top of everything ensuring that I remain consistant with everything I do and say. I also try to keep her as occupied as possible, although it doesn't always work sometimes it does.
Joined: 29 June 2005 United Kingdom Posts: 2328 Gender: Female
Posted: 22 July 2007 at 10:45pm | IP Logged
yes my neighbour works with children,studied all this behavioural stuff at uni and she said that at age 2 a child has the same sorts of hormone levels as a teenager which is why you see the similaritys in the bahavior!!
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Topic: Dealing with the terrible twos
