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Posted: 05 August 2007 at 10:47am | IP Logged
A week on Thursday is Potty day! I've got the following week off work so am going to go for it with Ella and see how we get on. Now here's my question...
Ella goes to nursery on a Monday and I'm going to start potty training on the Thursday before, so she will have had 4 days at it. My thought had been to not send her to nursery on the Monday as I thought it might be too much for her to cope with pants after just 4 days. DH thinks I should send her.
What would you do? Has anyone got any ideas?
Ella has gone very quickly from showing no interest in the loo or potty and being happy to be wet or dirty to suddenly asking to use the potty for wee's. So we've bought the big girl pants are are going to go for it. I just feel that after 4 days it could do more harm than good to send her to nursery where the attention isn't 1 on 1 and so she could have more accidents. If I don't send her, I've got the full week, plus the bank holiday weekend - then she's at my sisters on the Tuesday and Wednesday when I'm back at work and so she'll be in a situation she's very comfortable with and I'm sure Joe will help her find the potty when she needs it! The next time she'll be at nursery, she'll have had over 2 weeks of pants and potties so hopefully will be more confident at it.
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Posted: 05 August 2007 at 10:58am | IP Logged
Ooooh you're braver than me putting her in pants.
I've started potty training Tom and he goes to nursery, but he's in pull-ups. My advice having just got Max completely dry both day and night (yay, little man!!) is chill, go with the flow. I was never in a rush to get my children out of nappies, it's only now that Tom refuses to wear a wet one hence the pull-ups. He'll sit on a potty but hasn't actually done anything in it yet. That day is yet to come!
I spoke to the nursery about potty training and I supply the pull-ups. There are several other kiddies in Tom's group who are being potty trained at nursery, which can't be a bad thing for helping Tom learn. I know it encouraged Max.
Lovey, don't dwell too much on it. If Ella has accidents then deal with it. Once you go with the pants thing don't go back to nappies as it'll only confuse her. Persevere and be patient.
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Posted: 05 August 2007 at 11:08am | IP Logged
I would probably still send her to nursery personally. They are fully equiped and trained for potty training children so even though they wont give her 1 on 1 attention, they will still ask her if she needs to go constantly and reasure her/praise her if she does or doesnt manage it. She will need to get used to being there and going on the potty sooner or later, but if you'd rather keep her off for that day to get her used to it a bit more, then its up to you. I hope she gets on well whatever you decide. x-x-x
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Posted: 05 August 2007 at 11:14am | IP Logged
I'd say send her to nursery - we did the exact same thing with ellie - she'd had 4 days of potty training before the nursery day and on the nursery day, that was the first day she didn't have any accidents! They are used to it, they will remember to ask her if she needs to go to the toilet and if she has an accident, she has one, it's no big deal..plus she has to get used to the idea of remembering to realise herself that she needs to go rather than being asked constantly if she needs a wee....and they may not ask as many times as you might? don't mean to be rude lol, am just thinking back to how many times I must have asked ellie!
- does your nursery use a potty? Ours don't - they only have toilet so you might want to get Ella used to using both potty and toilet (also handy for when you are out and about, I have heard stories about kids refusing to use the toilet)..
Joined: 17 June 2005 United Kingdom Posts: 3849 Gender: Female
Posted: 05 August 2007 at 11:20am | IP Logged
Alex was actually better at the nursery than home! He started doing his poos in the nursery toilet instead of a nappy. When I asked him why he didn't do this at home he said "Poos are for the nursery toilet mummy, I do it in nappy with you", with a wee sweet smile!
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Posted: 05 August 2007 at 12:00pm | IP Logged
I would send her as well. Nurseries are use to potty training children and won't worry about accidents. My dd was at nursery 3 days a week and with a childminder twice a week and still managed to be fully trained in a couple of weeks. She most probably coped better because I wasn't fussing around her and sticking her on the potty every 10 mins.
Gregory was 2 and a half before he showed any interest and then was trained in a week. I was at home by then but far more laid back about the whole thing. Harry at 2 and 2 months is showing no interest at the moment so I am not rushing it and just waiting for him to show some interest.
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Posted: 05 August 2007 at 6:22pm | IP Logged
I know at the nursery I worked at (and the ones friends were at and Joshua's) potty's were not allowed in the nursery for health and safety. However, I think it is best to keep to your normal routine with her, and the nursery staff will be more than willing to continue her potty training. She will probably actually benefit more. The staff will be required to ask and take her regulary, plus she'll go at the routine times with her nursery friends and she'll see them going on the toilets and will probably want to go on herself to fit in.
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Posted: 05 August 2007 at 7:16pm | IP Logged
Heavens above! I must be one of the only ones that doesn't want to do this! lol Fred actually told me he had a poo bum yesterday for the first time straight after doing one, so I'm just taking it one step at a time. I just hope he can wait til the kids start back at school, then I can stay home and figure it out without loads of 'help'! Good luck with whichever way you decide, if she takes to it well, I'd go for it, but if she's not doing so well, I'd let her stay home!
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Posted: 05 August 2007 at 8:25pm | IP Logged
I'd probably send her, if you're happy with the nursery's policy ect. That way she learns that she has to try and stay dry there as well as at home, if that makes sense! Good luck with it all. We've been trying with Ben for a while now, slowly, and tommorrow I'm gonna put him in training pants for the first time! Hope they both do well!
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