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Posted: 12 August 2007 at 7:43pm | IP Logged

i cant offer any reasurance but im sure it will be ok i have a friend who gave birth on march 22nd(this yr) and fell pg 5 weeks later and is now carring twins who will be delivered mid jan 08.

Posted: 12 August 2007 at 8:18pm | IP Logged

Also can't offer any advice hun. My twin girls will be 2 on September 6th and we are ttc now, and I'm worried at how I will cope if I fall pregnant again.

I think you will cope, because we have to. Try not to worry to much hun and enjoy the rest of your pregnancy

x

Posted: 12 August 2007 at 9:57pm | IP Logged

Rachel will be 2 on the 27 september anw we are ttc too and tbh I am worried too, on a lighter note there was only a year between two of my aunts and they grew up to be very close, more like friends than sisters.

I do think all children are different and they have an amazing ability to adjust.

trust me you will be fine, it wasn't too long ago at all when the average size family was 9 or 10 children and these women still had to work on farms, lol....wouldn't recommend it.

Posted: 12 August 2007 at 10:11pm | IP Logged

I was in a similar position when my third child was born. My eldest was 3 and a half, and Noah was 15 months. I'd be lying if I said it was easy, because it's not easy, but then having a child never is easy. In some ways it's almost easier because the eldest isn't at school, so you don't feel pressured to get out of the house absolutely on time. I don't think that Ethan ever got to playgroup before half nine or nearly ten! The first year is a bit of a blur, if I'm honest, I think I spent most of it wiping bottoms, changing nappies and feeding. I know it felt like I would never get out of the house as I'd get all ready, then Noah would need a new nappy, so I'd do that and Ethan would want a drink, then Joe would need a new nappy, then Ethan would want a wee, etc, etc.

It is hard work, but as I said already, it always is going to be when you have another child, but it does get easier pretty quickly, physically at least. And the current youngest one will never remember a time when the new one wasn't there, if you know what I mean. You're also less likely to get jealousy problems from your second, as they're so young, they just accept changes like that pretty easily.

You will find a way to cope. To a degree, because you have to, but also because after having already had 2 babies, a lot of stuff really is second nature by now, so it will be much easier as you don't feel that overwhelming sense of change that you do after your first, and sometimes even after your second. You will be fine. Believe in yourself. Love, Rachel x

Posted: 22 August 2007 at 9:34am | IP Logged

I know that feeling of being scared if your gona cope with a second one so close.  My 2 are 17 months apart, i was dreading it, i have to admit it is hard work, especially in the first few weeks while trying to establish a routine with 2 instead of 1 lol, but it does get easier, I juat have the usual problems of arguingover toys now lol.......

Youll be fine, a friend of mine has got an 11 month age gap between her 2 and she has coped really well, especially when you consider her hubby is really arrogant and wont help her with the kids, she has had to do it on her own, but done fab with them.........

Dont panic about it, enjoy the rest of the pregnancy, your 2 will grow up being very close to eachother, they will look out for eachother and all sorts, itll be nice too to watch them playing together and helping eachother, i love that bit, especially if the one is hurt, the other goes to see if they are ok........

Posted: 22 August 2007 at 2:39pm | IP Logged

I have 3 boys and a baby girl and honestly I'd say that the youngest 3 are ok together, but the trouble comes when my eldest is around them. He's 7 and there's 3 years 3 months gap between the older two and much smaller gaps after that. I think the smaller the gap, the more they adjust quicker and accept the situation. But my eldest always remembers a time when it was just him, or just him and his baby brother Tashay(no.2) and he keeps reminding me about it too!Don't worry you'll adjust quicker than you think.

crys xxx

Posted: 22 August 2007 at 3:57pm | IP Logged

Ds was just turned 2 when dd was born and he was an angel for me (most of the time) things only went wrong when all the kids were together at once, it still happens now when the younger 2 are left to get on with things then majority of the time things are good but when the older ones join in things get very noisey and stressful.

My 2 lo's are really quite close now and i wouldn't want it any other way.