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Posted: 22 August 2007 at 9:44pm | IP Logged

Come on here for a whing really. I honestly should be more sympathetic towards my DP as I've been in the deep dark hollows of depression myself. I suffer bi-polar (aka manic depression) myself since I was 16 yrs old. However it has now become a problem that I no longer feel comfortable initiating sex with my DP & I'd be waiting forever for him to. He suffers OCD and depression. He also currently undergoing psychology.

Problem is I'm currently stable & with a healthy sex drive, so much so when DP & I went to a football match on Satursay to watch his team play I felt like a teenager again watching the men not the match. lol

Anyone any ideas or similar experiences, I know with PND its can the other way round.

Posted: 22 August 2007 at 10:09pm | IP Logged

Thanks for the advice.

I just had to smile though about your comment re men's ability to read body language. 

Posted: 08 September 2007 at 6:57pm | IP Logged

This sounds so familar.

When I had pnd I hated sex, found it a real turn-off and such a chore.  Then my husband found another woman and I was diagnosed with 'clinical depression', put on anti-depressants and told to go to counselling, which I did, begrudgingly.

It's been a long journey but now I'm better.  I've met a gorgeous and loving man and love sex.  So much so that he can't keep up!!

I've learned that although sex isn't the be all and end all it is important in a relationship.  When you lose that loving feeling as well as the ability to talk to one another it's doomed for failure.  Trust me, I know!

Good luck, honey.  Zo xxx

Posted: 08 September 2007 at 7:53pm | IP Logged

I am not too comfy with starting off the rumpy pumpy but my hubby loves it when I do. Try a little "code word" when you do feel in the mood, may help take the pressure off.

Oh by the way, I didn't have sex with my hunny for almost a year when I fell pregnant with my 3rd baby, but we made it through with a lot of talking etc.