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Posted: 06 September 2007 at 4:37pm | IP Logged

it's up to you

as long as they are toilet trained by school age!

for me as a teacher 17 new children coming into school not being toilet trained would be a nightmare!

last autumn i had 3 boys that still didnt know when they needed to go and had loads of 'accidents'! we just didn't have the staff (2 at a time) to change them, nor would i expect teachers/lsa's to have to!

funnily we kept ringing the parents it soon stopped!

Posted: 06 September 2007 at 7:49pm | IP Logged

It's definitely an individual thing. Ignore mother in laws, you'll find threads and threads about the ridiculous things that we are all expected to be doing according those founts of wisdom! Smile and nod. Then do your own thing. You know your children best.

There is a boy in my son's class who is almost 8 and still wears pull ups at night. He is obviously seeing a doctor and they are trying to get it sorted, but his mum tells me that the doctor refused to do anything about it until he was 6 and a half as before this age it is perfectly plausible that the muscles are still insufficiently strong to control everything.

With my three, I waited until their nappies were dry in the mornings, most mornings. WIth Joe, I had to buy a different brand of pull ups and call them 'night time pants' so that he didn't think he had a nappy on, as he didn't want to wear it, but if their nappy is soaked every morning then they're obviously not ready, so why make work for yourself?

I have another friend whose son just started school last week, and he's only been out of nappies during the day for 2 months. He just wasn't prepared to do it before then, but his mum has always made it clear that there'd be no nappies at school, so she ran out and refused to buy any more and he cried for a few hours as he wanted a nappy, but didn't have one accident! It's down to each child individually. End of story.

Posted: 10 September 2007 at 10:28pm | IP Logged

I think the problem on Supernanny was not that they weren't dry at night, but thatthe kids idn't likethe nappies, and that they were just baby nappies and not night time pants. I don't think that 5 is too old for night wetting really, I'm sure Ben won't be dry at night then lol. I think the prob was that the lo's were in baby nappies when they didn't want to be, beause the parents couldn't be bothered with night wakngs for loo trips ect.

Kids are ready when they're ready, and thats different with every lo.