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Posted: 07 September 2007 at 3:51pm | IP Logged

Some times there is no reason for a miscarriage. I truely believe that everything happens for a reason, and that some things are just not meant to be. I went through a MMC and I can totally understand your need for an explanation. If you look hard enough you will find possibilities but the truth is you will never know.

Lots of women suffer extreme sickness in pregnancy and continue to have a healthy pregnancy, so to say this bug killed your unborn I think is unlikely. Did the hospital run and histology after your loss? If they did could they give you any indication as to why it may have happened?

Ive just done a search, and this was my findings by a Dr Thomas:

"....most important stomach bugs are bacteria not viruses. Finally, most stomach bugs don't actually get past your gut into your blood stream so your baby was probably never exposed."

It is very hard accepting a MMC where there are no answers. I was fortunate enough to have an answer and find out why my unborn was naturally taken from me, and finding out did bring me closure. I found it very hard to deal with my loss before having this information. All I can say is try to understand that nature has a way of telling us if something is right or not right. If you are able to accept that, and reassure yourself that you had no control over the results, it is then a time you can allow yourself to move forward.

Have you thought about using the Madmums buddy scheme? There is a miscarriage section. This is a one to one private support scheme where you will be able to talk to someone privately through pm's on here with someone who knows and understands what you are going through. Just fill in the form HERE

Posted: 08 September 2007 at 10:10pm | IP Logged

hun i had a mc can never knew why but i also know i was very sick in both my other pregancies and had healthy lil girls..........i woudl put this thought out of your head hun ......a lot harder said than done i know..... as for blamming yourself rememebr these bugs are air borne so you could have picked it up any where and any time......i wish you all the best hun .

xxx