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Posted: 15 September 2007 at 3:11pm | IP Logged

hun

I'm sorry to hear that it's been so rough for you. The main thing to focus on is that you are now on the up. It doesn't matter how low you got or what has happened hun (i've been pritty low myself in past years and it ended out being the lowest or lows), but you are slowly starting to regain control of your life.

I tend to pop on when kids are asleep or napping, otherwise i'd be glued to this thing. Enjoy your kids hun even if they are a handful and remember noone on here judges you, and we only ask after you out of true love and care.

I do wish you all the best in your continuing battle (kids always are    ). Keep strong and know your free to vent, cry and just ramble on here anytime you want.

See you again soon hun,

Tsena xxx

Posted: 15 September 2007 at 4:15pm | IP Logged

Hi Sweetheart

Sorry to hear that things have snowballed for you, and Im glad the the anti depressants are starting to kick in, if not slowly for you. 

Glad the neighbours are moving - party at your house on moving day eh?

Keep your chin up and remember, we're here for you hunny if you need us xxx

Posted: 15 September 2007 at 5:53pm | IP Logged

Very glad to hear that your neighbours are moving - hopefully your life and the kids' will be a lot quieter now. Sorry to hear things got on top of you for a bit - that's hardly surprising - I think you've done tremendously well to cope through everything I've read about in your posts. Stay strong.

xxx

Posted: 15 September 2007 at 6:04pm | IP Logged

hi jen,

i think you have coped so well,even though i only know you on here i know what a great mother you are,no matter what your going through you always put your kids first,they are going through a rough time with their dad,that is not your fault,you are doing your best for them all,they are just dealing with it in difficult ways,soon they will see that it isnt the best way of deling with things. im so glad your neighbours are moving too i know they have caused you great upset,especially of late when it has lead to one of your own children getting beaten up. i hope that battle is now one thats over for you and you will now feel comfortable in your own home.

i realy hope things continue to pick up for you now and  you knwo wer we all are,as you have been for us so many times. dont leave it too long before your back,thinking about you xxx

Posted: 15 September 2007 at 6:41pm | IP Logged

Hiya Jen.

I'm really, really sorry that your depression had got to that point hun!
But like what has already been said, im glad that now things are slowly starting to look up for you and your children and you can put that behind you and start looking forward to living a happier life for you all.

I'm sure that you've done as much as you possibly can regarding the kids Dad, and no matter how much anger and hatred you have towards him.. it sounds like you've done everything possible for your kids to have a relationship with him, and nothing else you could say and do will make him see sence!

We are all here as and when you need us hun...
Hopefully spending some quality time with your kids will make you all stronger as a family unit!
Take Care
x-x-x

Posted: 19 September 2007 at 9:08pm | IP Logged

Keep smiling babe. Its hard when dads continually promise but dont deliver. I ve got one like that. when he first moved out, he would say he would call in the week to see them. they would wait by the front door, jumping up at all the cars that passed, the disappointment increasing. he would go a couple of weeks and just not bother. so after speaking to his mum (she gave him a talking to) i told him he was having the kids every Sunday. That went on for a while. Now its every other weekend as he has changed his jobs and works alternate weekends. Found out last weekend that he finishes by 2.30 so he could still see the kids, but cant be bothered. that says a lot doesnt it?

Havent had the full history of your horrid neighbours from hell, but pity the poor buggers they will be living next to in the future!!! as long as you are free of them thats all that matters!!

I think each generation that comes along has less and less respect for property and people. my kids leave their stuff in the garden, all over the floor and I could shout till I was a nice shade of aubergine and it wouldnt make the blindest difference. And the cheek that comes out of their mouths sometimes....have washed dd mouth out with soap and water once! she gave me such a blast of bad language and cheek-after being warned to pack it in- and didnt. so carried out the threat! she was politer for a short time!!! but in the long run it didnt solve anything.

Just take a deep breath, when theyre all asleep, and imagine yourself on some tropical beach, swinging in a hammock, aquamarine waves splashing on the golden yellow sand.........I'm there with you already!! Cocktail anyone??

Posted: 20 September 2007 at 9:06am | IP Logged

All you can do is take every day as it comes.

Having 5 children (all still very young) is very hard work and you are doing it all by yourself. my hat goes off to you, I wouldn't be able to do it.

I am glad you are on the way up.......may you continue to feel better.