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Posted: 19 September 2007 at 2:25pm | IP Logged

I agree - don't worry too much about it - you will manage whenever the next lo comes along. I've got 23 months between Becca and Ruthie - and I found it was fine. There is obviously a lot bigger age gap between the girls and Cameron (7 and 9 years), but it's fine too. The girls were a huge help when Cameron was first born and they are really good with him now. You'll get used to having another member of the family pretty quickly!

xxx

Posted: 19 September 2007 at 7:56pm | IP Logged

Hi

I think this is a difficult question as many love having kids so close together but i'm glad i have a 5yr ish age gap between mine as my eldest understood about all my pregnancy and post pregnancy problems and didn't worry as he had an understanding... he also was very excited and i didn't have much jelousy.

Having mine so far apart has also allowed me to see him off to school etc before i started again so i can give him the one on one time i wanted to.

It's really up to you, i'd love another but i know i'd love another but i've been told its a big no no but who knows 5 yrs or so time i might have seen a miracle or adopt etc.

Posted: 20 September 2007 at 10:02am | IP Logged

The deciding factor for me was the relationship I have with my brother and sister, we are very close and I want that for Ellie altho I am aware that there is no guarantee that it will happen for her and Hannah..

I am not a very maternal person, I never really thought I wanted a baby till I met dh and I don't really get broody when I see other people's babys..and altho I adore my two girls, that's it for us, our family is complete!

Having two is harder work in some respects (the first few months were very hard for us) but it does get easier and Ellie loves Hannah now and entertains her and when Hannah laughs and smiles at Ellie, it brings a tear to my eye...awww I'll shut up now soppy moo lol

Posted: 07 October 2007 at 8:16pm | IP Logged

There's 21 mths between Ethan and Ellie. When Ethan was approaching his first birthday I was starting to feel broody. I knew I didn't want Ethan to be a only child and also wanted a small age gap. Didn't really think about it too much, kind of just jumped straight in without too much discussion and was pregnant the following month. I think if I hadn't fallen pg so soon I would have waited a bit longer (chickened out) - I was panicing how I would cope/work/how it would effect Ethan etc.

Ethan took to having a baby sister brilliantly, we never had any jealousy or anything.  It was very tiring being heavily pg and Ethan being so young and it was hard work when she was born but well worth it.  Ethan and Ellie are very close.

Now I am trying to make my mind up about having a third and FINAL baby - its a hard decision. I have given myself 6 mths (just after xmas) and will see if I still want to expand the family then. I would have a bigger age gap as Ethan would be 5 and Ellie 3 at least if we have another.

Posted: 12 October 2007 at 9:26pm | IP Logged

I know this is an old thread but I just wanted to add my twopennorth on the age gap saga.

My 2 are a mere 18months apart, currently i have one in year2 and one in year3 of the same primary school (handy!).

After needing Clomid to conceive dd1, we kinda thought we'd need some more pills for another baby, so took absolutely no precautions whatsoever, and bang, I'm pg and struggling with morning sickness and a 10 month old baby. I still loathe the smell of weetabix as a result.

My mother was completely horrified but dh soon put her in her place, and she did actually admit to us that she was only upset at the thought of all the hard work I'd set myself up with. And god yes it was hard, but oh sooooooooo worth it. By the time they were 2 and 3 respectively they were best buddies, and still are. Sure they argue and fight but a lot less than I did with my sister as a kid.

What I'm saying is that you'll cope with whatever you get. I did and I sure ain't no superwoman, pretty glad that second pg wasn't a multiple tho

After a year with 2 in nappies I feel I can face pretty much anything

Don't worry about your older one missing out, they won't allow you to ignore them. And the baby gets what it needs too. It IS harder with a second child but its so rewarding so you go girl.

God I can talk when I feel I have something to say can't I?

/K