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Posted: 25 September 2007 at 4:57pm | IP Logged

Andy's cousin had a lil girl just over a week ago. She already has a son by an ex and a 2 and 1/2 year old girl by her hubby. Thing is, I think they were 100% sure that they were going to have a boy this time. I met her in the supermarket on Sat and she just didn't seem "all there". She hardly spoke about the baby at all and didn't even smile when mentioning her.

I've tried calling her but she always has to rush off which I can understand but I really think she's struggling. What should I do ?

Posted: 25 September 2007 at 5:04pm | IP Logged

Could you not pop round for a drink and chat? Maybe take a box of chocolates or biscuits and tell its for mummy time. Then maybe put the kettle on for her, and just have chit-chat. There's always that special way of questioning that makes a person open up, just try and tap into that. Ask her how the other kids are adapting to a new baby sister, that sort of thing, not so your asking its like you thinkshe cant cope. Hopefully, if she does need to talk she'll then open up to you (assume your ready to take on her woes if she has any)

Posted: 25 September 2007 at 5:20pm | IP Logged

If mum2joshua's advice doesn't work (which is top notch as usual ;) ) do you know who her health visitor is?? Could you raise your concers with her?

If not drop in a card saying special friend, take time to chill and relax, with some chocs attatched though the letterbox  (maltessers fit, don't they madz ;) ) and just put a pm in there i'm here for a chat whenever your up to it day or night. Catch up soon, love xxx

Might work.... made me a friend whom i can't imagine life without  

Posted: 25 September 2007 at 6:44pm | IP Logged

Does she have internet? Introduce her to us/or email her.... If that fails send her a book (there's a good one about pnd, done by...oh can't remember the name pm me if you want to know it and i'll get it next time i go upstairs) or box of chocs/flowers etc... definatley call her but just say how you doing are the kids keeping you busy? don't talk about the new born till she's ready or you feel she's ready.

Good luck keep us posted and don't go getting down about it, it's she might

She will open up to you it just takes time.

Well done though as knowing people are there sometimes makes all the difference!   

Posted: 25 September 2007 at 6:59pm | IP Logged

id text her just to say your thinking of her,hope she and the baby are okay and your only a phone call away if she needs anything,or even just a chat/moan.

xxx