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Posted: 04 October 2007 at 5:25pm | IP Logged

As thew title says... i think i have made a booboo.

Simon has gone over to see Kay tonight, and i asked if he was taking one of the girls with him, he said no cause he wants to spend time with kay on his own..

We have spoken about this a while ago, i said dont ignore the girls, they will grow up thinking htere daddy doesnt want to know them when he is with kay.. he basically stormed out.. and in my wisdom, have sent him a text saying.. Thats it, game over, i've had enough off all the baggage you have. A bag is done up for you, let me know when your picking it up..

Soooooo, i need you lovely ladies to tell me im wrong, i should put up with all the s**t if im going to be with him etc..

My head is battered right now, i really don't know what to think.. pls be blunt with me, i need a kick up the arse!!

Posted: 04 October 2007 at 5:38pm | IP Logged

OK Nicki.

How did he feel about taking on Taylor when you met ? I know it's hard to accept someone else's kids but couldn't Kay come to yours so he is around all of his girls ?

I know you say you want him out, but you don't really now do you ?

Deep breaths and if all else fails, go chuck some old crockery about.

Posted: 04 October 2007 at 7:11pm | IP Logged

it isnt easy but im afriad you have to accept the way he wants to do things but i would suggest talking to him and saying you would like to be more involved in things where she is concerned...is it possibel; to have her over to you for tea or something?

that way you might not feel as pushed out when he spends time with her..? try not top take it personally hun...i know its easier said than done but its something you just have to get on with! thinking of ya xxx

Posted: 04 October 2007 at 8:13pm | IP Logged

It must be tough, but the way I see it is your girls have their dad on hand all week (mostly lol)but Kay only gets to see her dad once a week.

I agree with sam, try and organise something for just you and the girls when he is away so they get to look forward to something too.

Posted: 04 October 2007 at 8:47pm | IP Logged

Hun

Deep breaths.... you're entitled to feel shuned and lonely. oh yeah grow up! you've been told!! Joke!! I quite often wish someone would take my shoulders and give me a good old hard shake or slap round the face and tell me to suck it up etc.

As for his other kids and yours it's horrible to think of it but if you love each other you have to each accept each others baggage.

Just rant and rave , try and think about if you really still want him around etc May be write him a letter explaining how you feel etc. leave it out for him to read, as for sending him rash text messages i do the same i'm very hot headed etc.

Try not to make any rash decisions till you've slept on it. It might seem better or clearer what you want tomorrow.

Posted: 05 October 2007 at 11:00am | IP Logged

I don't know how many times I've sent off texts to dh over the years in a temper, then wished I could stop them as soon as I've pressed 'send'!!!

Hope you feel better about everything today, and had a chance to have a good think about what you want.

xxx

Posted: 05 October 2007 at 1:24pm | IP Logged

I don't know much about these situations as Dh an I have one child together.

I did have a boyfriend years ago who had a son with another girl, we would be at the cinema or dinner and she would text him and he would be up-set and pieed-off with her. At the end of the day I decided that it was too much for me to cope with.

It wasn't so much he had a child but that the other girl would always be a part of his life, and if we were to get serious she would be always there in our relationship.

I think sometimes its easier when its the dad or mum has a child and the other party is off the scene.

Like I said I don't know much about these situations but I hope you feel better really soon and you sort some thing out.