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Posted: 14 October 2007 at 8:42pm | IP Logged

Lynie (((hugs)))

Firstly now your on mat leave, you can make some time to sort out stuff for the twins and christmas and Stewart can help inbetween the job hunts.

You will have time for Alex and Emily when the twins are here they'll proberbly be your biggest helpers not only with the twins but around the house also, every lo loves to help dust and sorts.

Maybe you wont have the amount of time you do now to devote to them but i bet they wont be neglected or any worse for it.

You'll manage you'll have no choice but too and it'll be hard but i bet most of all it'll be throughly rewarding.

Dont forget your hormones are raging and it always makes things seem twice as bad.

I know what i have said wont be of any comfort but things have a way of sorting themselves out, not always in the direction we want but they do tend to work eventually.

Just remember to accept any help your offered so you dont drop under the stress and treat yourself to some choccie

x

Posted: 14 October 2007 at 9:41pm | IP Logged

I know I was only going from 2 to 3, not 2 to 4, but I was worried about how I would find time for the older 2 once the baby was here, would they feel neglected, etc etc. Of course it's a worry, you love your children, so worrying about them is what we mums do the best. The fact (as it was explained to me by an ambulance man while whizzing Noah to the hospital with the blue light flashing after a head injury while Hazel followed with baby Joe in the car....) is that they will probably worry more if they pick up your worry. Maybe they will have less one-on-one time with you, but think ahead a couple of years to all the fun your little tribe is going to have running around together, and how much extra love they will have in their lives through having a new brother and sister. That's two whole extra people to love and be there for, and who will grow to love and be there for them. They won't miss out on anyting, and will gain a huge amount. You're still their mum. They're both old enough to see that you're busy, but you've worked hard this last few years to make them feel secure and loved, and I realise I don't know you in a real way, only 'virtually', but I'm fairly confident that you're not going to pack them off for a month or anything radical that would give them the idea that you no longer are interested in them now that some more babies are here.

Of course you want to be organised. I know 30 weeks is a huge milestone, but you still have a few weeks to get organised, and now that you're on leave you will be able to do that. Thinking about how things will work out is always far far worse than when we're actually faced with those things in reality. I don't think you'll be fine because your a teacher (I know I said that before but I was being lighthearted), I think you'll be fine because you're quite obviously a loving, devoted mother who would do anything for her children, and who can give good advice to others so obviously has a lot of good strategies for coping with things, and those strategies will come to you when you need them.

Obviously you're worried. Apart from anything else, leaving work is a big step, and it is a huge change that you're going through, and that's before we start on the wonderful effects of hormones or the worries about your dh's job. But you can only take one day at a time. Make your priorities (and make looking after yourself one of them...), try not to fix it all at once, and you will get there.

I do like this site, but sometimes I wish you all lived down the road, as I feel kind of useless sat here typing this knowing that it's making no real difference at all! In the absebce of being able to do anything actually real, please accept a big virtual hug.

Moan away anytime. None of us will complain.

Posted: 14 October 2007 at 10:44pm | IP Logged

Hey yoooou, s'just me!

Wanted to pop on and gie a gigantic hug!  Life throws things at us to sometimes test us me thinks.  I mean 4 kiddies under 5, it will be amazing, hard at times, but just think how close they will all be later on?  And they have a strong Mother and Father who are there to support, guide and care for them. Think of all the cuddles, eh?  Wow, Alex isn't in the mood, oh well there's Emilie or taylor 1, taylor 2. 

Hormones, who'd have em? 

Just take a step back take a big breath, and take things one thing at a time.  Your main priority being 30 weeks, phew have a sit down a big steaming mug of hot choc and relax for a little while.

I hope you feel less hormonal soon , take care all and Lynie especially

from your wee Scots chick,

xxxxx

Posted: 15 October 2007 at 3:00am | IP Logged

Lynie..

big hugs!! ill cry with ya if youd like..hope you do feel better, maybe after getting started on some of that would make ya feel better. remember me on bedrest and ya all kept me occupied and im so thankful!

Posted: 15 October 2007 at 8:47am | IP Logged

Hi hun

Ok, you have been amazing on here and a tower of strength to many, as for having so any lo's uncer the age of 5 it will be tough but very rewarding! I know you worry about joe and his lack of employement but try not to when you least expect it something will land in place... if not he can help with the lo's and that should be a good thing.

As for kids being happy i can promise you they will.... as long as you can remember a positive and happy expierence then all sholld be ok.

As for the hormones and the birth etc i'm afriad i can't offer much help or advice but i'm sure others on here can.

Christmas you could shop via the affliates and if penies are tight i'm sure we could all come up some homemade ones that will mean lots.

chin up hun and please feel free to rant and rave... i've often wondered about screaming and just posting and arrrrrrrrrrrgggggggggggghhhhh oh i needed that.... and end of post!!

might have the guts one day to do it!

tc hun xxx

Posted: 15 October 2007 at 9:03am | IP Logged

Hey Lynie. So sorry to hear you are feeling this way but its perfectly normal. I only have the girls so i have no idea what it will be like having 4. What i do know is the first 3 months or so will be very tireing. I'm sure you can get help from Sure start or who ever the support groups are up there. As you have 4 children under 5 you qualify so get all the help you can. I know it must be frustrating with dh not having a job but on the plus side he is there to help as much as poss and remember to take time out for yourself no matter how you feel, you need time. Get the twins into a routine as soon as poss and stick to it. I know you know this all already but you have to be more strict with 2 of the same age. Feed them at the same time so you don't fall into a trap of feeding at different times as you will be constantly feeding. Even if the other is not ready you will find they will fall into the same pattern if you do this which makes it easier.

You will be a great mother no matter what happens. It will be hard at first but in the end you know it is all worth it. Just pm me any time if you need me. xxxxxxxxxx