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Posted: 31 October 2007 at 3:32pm | IP Logged

Sorry all but I just need to get all of this out.

Things have now come to a terrible head with Bex. Someone has spread rumours round her school that she has the clap and for the last two days she has flatly refused to go in.

Have tried, shouted, persuaded all to no avail. Really came to ahead yesterday. We had a huge argument and she hit on the head as I was walking away from her so hard, she knocked my glasses off. Then again last night, she slapped me that hard across the face and ear  I have a burst left ear-drum and a huge bruise on my cheek and am in agony. Called the police and they issued her wiht a caution.

Fat lot of good that did, she was still dishing out the cheek and saying it's all my fault. I brought her up, I annoy her etc.

Anyway, my sister has now offered to take her in for a few weeks so Bex is leaving on Saturday to stay with her. My sis ter is also going to organise for her to attend the school in her town. My sister lives down in the Borders (200 miles away).

TBH I have just run out of energy to deal with her anymore and I feel like a massive failure.

Posted: 31 October 2007 at 3:43pm | IP Logged

Oh hun you are not a faliure, Kids really push us to the limits.

I know that's true from my child hood i told mt dad that he had no business in my life or couldn't tell me what to do (he adopted me when i was 3), i went so off the rails i did everything possible to make there life hell.

I'm hoping that your daughter will soon come to her senses. It's horrific that she layed a hand on you and having some time out doesn't mean your letting her or yourself down.... i know from your posts that she has had a tough trot lately maybe she hasn't gotten a clue how to deal with her feelings.....  or she's just fed up and wanting to be normal and feeling hard and far from it..... i'm sure either way she'll come round eventually.

You are an excellent mum, she just is having a rebelious stage....

Good luck and i hope you get well soon....sending lots of big gentle hugs xxx

Posted: 31 October 2007 at 4:10pm | IP Logged

Oh poor you Hazy - what a difficult thing to deal with. Do not feel like a failure - I think a wee bit of time apart will do both of you good, especially when it has come to a head like this. It's definitely not acceptable for Bex to have laid a hand on you like that - and I would have dealt with it exactly the same way.

Hopefully a bit of space away for her will give her an opportunity to think about things - and you time to re-charge your batteries.

Hope you are feeling better soon.

xxx

Posted: 31 October 2007 at 4:58pm | IP Logged

OMG, first of all you are not a failure, not in a million years.

This is my honest and I am not trying to suck up to you but I think you are one of the best mums on the site....I really do.

I can tell you this much, If it was me I think I would have send my daughter off months and months ago.

Your daughter really has a lot of growing up to do and the problem is she thinks she has done that all ready.

I bet you anything that in years to come and mad mums have a different set of mums on line you and your ndaughter will be very close, I have heard it so many times. You will both ook back, you won't laugh about it but it will be a distant memory. you will be the first person she rings when her own kids act up because you will have gone tru it all before.

I am however very sorry she is giving you such a hard time and I hope that this time she spends with her aunt gives you both the space you need.