Joined: 14 November 2007 United Kingdom Posts: 23 Gender: Female
Posted: 14 November 2007 at 1:19pm | IP Logged
Hi im hannah, im 13 and 34weeks pregnant with my baby. The dad has already said he does not give a s*** about the baby but i dont care about him anymore, if he does not care about my baby. My mum and dad have said they will support me if i chose to keep the baby but they really think i should put the baby up for adoption when it is born, and i dotn want to as i love it with all my heart already.
I have joined just to chat to other people that have children or are excacting babies, anyone to chat to would be really nice, as im finding it really hardwith my parents tryign to mak me give my baby up.
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Posted: 14 November 2007 at 2:01pm | IP Logged
Hello and welcome.
I'm Emma and i'm mummy to twin girls.
You are such a young girls i can understand why your mum and dad are being like this. To be honest i don't know how i would react if one of mine came home at your age and told me they was pregnant.
When i was in school a friend of mine fell pregnant and she was going to give her baby up for adoption. In the end she kept her and her mum came around in the end. She was 2 years older than you when she had her though.
Maybe your mum and dad will come around to the idea! How far along are you?
Well sorry i'm not much help but goodluck no matter what you decide. xxx
Joined: 24 October 2005 United Kingdom Posts: 4566 Gender: Female
Posted: 14 November 2007 at 2:27pm | IP Logged
Hi Hannah.
Welcome to Madmums. Bless you sweetheart, xx. I had my oldest daughter at 18 and I couldn't imagine having to go through it all at your age. Can't offer much advice really but I can wish you well with the rest of your pregnancy, xx.
Joined: 24 April 2007 United Kingdom Posts: 1937 Gender: Female
Posted: 14 November 2007 at 3:08pm | IP Logged
Hi Hannah. I'm Kim, I've got three lo's - my eldest Rebecca is the same age as you. I can't imagine what it must be like for you to be having a baby so young - and a big shock for your mum and dad too. I hope you are keeping well.
Welcome to the site. I'm sure you'll get lots of advice and support from everyone here.
Joined: 13 June 2005 United Kingdom Posts: 8802 Gender: Female
Posted: 14 November 2007 at 3:23pm | IP Logged
Hi and welcome.
It must be very hard for you to make a decision about something so hard. Its great that your parents are supporting you. What are you doing about school? I knew someone at school who had a baby when she was 14. She kept the baby and her mum had him whilst she went to school. It was really hard for her, financially, physically as she was always tired, and emotionally as she couldnt go out with her friends etc as she had to look after her son. She did a good job though and managed to get good qualifications so she could support her son herself. I knew someone else who fell pregnant at 15 and had the baby adopted. It was a really hard decision to make but she felt she was too young to care for the baby, it wasnt fair on her parents to have to look after it and it would be better for the baby to have a life with 2 parents who could support it better than she could. She missed the baby everyday but she always knew she had made the right decision for her and her baby.
I cant tell you what to do but they are 2 stories I know of people who went through the decision you have to made and each made a different decision. I think its important to talk to your parents fully about it and think about the future and what will happen.
Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy, I hope you are keeping well.
By the way. I'm Maddy, mummy to Edward who is 2, I had him when I was 20.
Joined: 27 February 2006 United Kingdom Posts: 2259 Gender: Female
Posted: 14 November 2007 at 3:37pm | IP Logged
Hi Hannah, i am Emma mum to ds William 4 and dd Kimi 2 and step mum to sd Jamie 15 and sd Natasha 12, a friend of mine had a baby at 15 and she did a good job in the begining but really struggled as the baby became older and more demanding of hre time, she didn't have a mu or dada for support either, i would say the choice is yours but your parents are trying to give you options but it really has to be your choice, good luck for the future.
My friend is expecting their first baby on your due date too.
Edited by mum2willNkimi on 14 November 2007 at 6:59pm
Joined: 14 November 2007 United Kingdom Posts: 23 Gender: Female
Posted: 14 November 2007 at 5:40pm | IP Logged
There is a school near by for teenager with babies and im hoping to get n there.i know i definightly aint giving her up even if i ahev to giveeverythign up.
Joined: 12 December 2005 United Kingdom Posts: 776 Gender: Female
Posted: 14 November 2007 at 6:21pm | IP Logged
Hiya, Im Amy, 22. Im mummy to Adam aged 3 yrs and Zarah 9 months. Im also expecting baby no.3 on the 4th of January. We live in Surfleet, Lincolnshire with my Dp, Dave. Congratulations on your pregnancy and I hope you enjoy it, regardless of the circumstances. Take care and hope to chat soon.
Joined: 06 September 2007 United Kingdom Posts: 545 Gender: Female
Posted: 14 November 2007 at 6:32pm | IP Logged
This will probably be the biggest decision of your life, ever. Its a toughy alright. Its good that your parents are supporting you and not forcing you to make the decision. But its going to be really hard, you re only a child yourself. (dont mean to sound nasty, but at 13 I didnt even know how to get pregnant!!)
I hope the father will be made to take responsibilty. Is he the same age as you or older? His parents should take some even if he doesnt.
I wish you well in your last 6 weeks and beyond!!
I m Jain by the way! I have a daughter of 9 and twin boys of 7. I was 27 when I had my daughter, so have no personal experience of what you re going through.
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Topic: Hi I'm Hannah
Hi Hannah. I'm Kim, I've got three lo's - my eldest Rebecca is the same age as you. I can't imagine what it must be like for you to be having a baby so young - and a big shock for your mum and dad too. I hope you are keeping well.
