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Posted: 02 December 2007 at 9:47pm | IP Logged

I'm so sorry to hear such awful news.

I hope you find some comfort soon.

Posted: 02 December 2007 at 10:10pm | IP Logged

Awww hunny, firstly a huge big hug as i think you need it ((    ))

I'm glad that Lynie has been able to be there for you and have had the support of family and friends.

Not knowing the endless whys and what ifs really can eat away at you, and i know without answers it's almost impossible to do but you have to try and find away. I have never been though this myself so i can't advise you on the bleeding side of things but i have had many conversations with my mum and friends whom have all been there too.

As for your mood hun your allowed to be sad, angry etc, but it's hard to explain to kids, you need to allow yourself to mourn for you baby. I know this may sound a little daft but you need too. As for your eldest it's lovely that she loves you so much and cares for you but if you let her know that you had a poorly tummy and the docs had to sort help you out to start the road to recovery.... it might take a while before you fully better but you will be the mum they know again.... but your just a little sad as your tummy got poorly.... (depending on her age this should help her understand why it is hard being smily and happy all the time, and with christmas looming it must be a little harder.

I know it's not the same but to give you an idea, My eldest was 4 when i was pg with my 2nd and i had bad morning sickness, he thought i was going to die because i keep throwing up and passing out. After a little reassurance that it was a tummy bug (easiest way to explain it at the time) he was happier knowing i wasn't going anywhere.

Big hugs and kisses hun. I wish you all the best and i hope things start to get better for you soon x

Posted: 02 December 2007 at 11:18pm | IP Logged

Really sorry to hear you have had to go through this again.  With my first missed miscarriage I had an ERPC and had very little bleeding so don't worry about that side of things.  I did find my first af was heavy and crampy.

The grief with a miscarriage is like no other grief you ever have to go through because it is so lonely.  No one else shares the pain with you.  When someone dies everyone is upset and you can draw some comfort from that when you loose your baby it's much harder.  Take each day as it comes.  Focus on your children, I found mine a great comfort and still do.

As for trying again, take your time.  I really wanted to have another baby straight away after both my mc's but after the last time it just hasn't happened.  In a strange way it's a relief now as I know I couldn't have handled going through it for a 3rd time.  I look at my lovely kids and am really glad that I have them, there will always be a little hole for me in my family but it is getting eaiser to live with everyday now.

If you need a chat or just want to scream you know where we are xx

Posted: 03 December 2007 at 9:35am | IP Logged

I'm so sorry to hear this has happened. Nothing really that I can add - the other ladies summed up how I feel - but am thinking of you.

xxx

Posted: 03 December 2007 at 10:55am | IP Logged

I am so sorry to hear this too

Can't begin to imagine what you are going through

Sending lots of hugs to you and your family

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