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Posted: 21 January 2008 at 8:49pm | IP Logged

Hi Hun

Talking about our problems isn't always easy, admitting them and that we have them is the hard part.... i've found once i start to admit it and write down how i'm feeling etc (which is easier than talking) that it's suprising... and i seems to get easier as time's gone on... it also helps knowing i'm not being judged and there are people out there who have the same/similar pants stuff happening.... if that makes sense.

Being very tearful doesn't matter it's a way of coping, and in my eyes we do all we can to keep plodding along. It's hard to see the good in what you do and are always fearful of being judged, and i know now i judge myself ten times more than someone else.

It's good to know your df is supportive and you daughter is lovely, i hope we can help you realise your not alone and there are others on here who also worry that they keep putting on the same people and are worried that they are going to push loved ones away, but it hasn't happened yet.

Keep typing even if it's shocking what you put and you have no idea where it's going but you need to ramble we're here for that too. Have you thought about going to your gp and having a chat, maybe write down how your feeling and hand it to them.... it's not going to be easy but you've done the first step and thats the hardest.

Good luck and keep smiling at you angle..... hugs

Tsena x

Posted: 21 January 2008 at 9:37pm | IP Logged

First of all good for you for writing some of it down - its not an easy thing to do

Madmums is a great support network and theres always someone here to chat to or even just vent some feelings

Posted: 21 January 2008 at 9:50pm | IP Logged

Hun, I'm glad we're helping a little..... i don't like asking for help either but i have found on here you don't have to shout help you can just sit down and pour your heart out and people will brainstorm alsorts for you....tell you what has worked for them etc and it gives you lovely guys something to go down like a tick list.... and you might suprise yourself and have already have tried or be doing some of the suggestions.

You've made the first step.... and i look forward to getting to know you both better..... Chat again soon x

Posted: 22 January 2008 at 7:12pm | IP Logged

i agree with the ladies,it is the hardest thing admitting how you feel,and you shouldnt feel bad,its not something you can just turn off or snap out of,and as perfect as everything couild be in your life that doesnt mean you shouldnt be depressed,i have just started anti d's after years of "feeling sorry for myself"...im in a new and v happy relationship,have a job a lovely little house,a perfect lil girl and what seems to be a bright future ahead of me but i cant see it too much of the time.....it does help to talk opr write it down,the ladies on here have been a rock for me over the l;ast few years and their support is amazing,you will be suprised at what talking to someone who isnt involved can do....

no doubt you will have  good days and bad days,try do something really positive on the good days and when you have a bad day focus on them happy feelings and try lift yourself as much as poss,you should deff talk to your gp it is more common than you would think and could be helped and resolved quite quickly with the right support xxxx