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Posted: 22 January 2008 at 7:24pm | IP Logged

You totally have nothing to be ashamed of, I also had PND, as did a few of the ladies on here and we are more than happy for you to offload.  We also have a buddy scheme which you can chat to someone one-to-one and its completely confidential, which you might find easier discussing it with just another person.

Hope things get better for you soon hunny, and dont forget, we're here for you hunny xxxxx

Posted: 22 January 2008 at 7:29pm | IP Logged

Like many have already said its good to write it all down. Your feelings, what sets things off etc. Then you can go through these one by one and tackle them rather than trying to do it all at the same time.

I had PND after having my twin girls and it took me over 2 months to admit what was wrong. I did have other problems aswell at the time but it all mounts up. We are all good at convincing ourselfs we are ok even when we know we're not.

You have took the hardest step by admitting there is something wrong. But please do not think this is your fault as its far from it. Most ladies on here have either had PND, depression or both...

There is a buddy scheme you can do which is one to one.

I would recommend going to the docs and explaining everything to them, even if you break down your not the first they have seen and you won't be the last. I know i did when i went to see mine.

This is the next hard step doing something but you have done the first so go for it. When you feel better you wil be so glad you did and you won't be afraid to admit it either.

Goodluck hunny and let us know how you get one. xxxx

Posted: 22 January 2008 at 7:33pm | IP Logged

  Just wanted to send you a huge hug xxxxxxxxxxx

Posted: 23 January 2008 at 10:13am | IP Logged

hi, i also have PND and was a t rock bottom, dont get me wrong my youngest is 5 months old and i still have 2 out of 7 days where i dont want to speak to anyone or even look at my children, the twins are 9 and they are my saviours at times coz they help me out with the girls when im down and they make me cup of coffee that taste awful but the thought that they love me so much to do that makes it taste great.

I also got paired up on the buddy scheme and the lady i hv==ave is brill. i basically sit at my computer and stomp down all my feelings and anger and then feel better for sharing it with some one who noes exactly what i am on about. keep happy hun, this mental lot will keep u going for hours. xxxxxxxxxxxxx

Posted: 08 August 2008 at 9:08pm | IP Logged

Hi hun,

you've taken a huge step by writing on here! you should be so proud!

For some people PND is an embarassment,something they should be ashamed of,they feel a failure! well guess what......your NONE of them things, i repeat NONE!!!!. The amount of people who suffer from PND is like the amount of people who like wine.....lots!

Im one of them who find it easy to speak about my PND think its who i am(sorry if this makes you feel worse,its not my intentions), i will admit i shout from the rooftops and tell everyone!

For those who aren't at the point you feel comfortable can i suggest one idea.....make an online friend (im a good listener if anyone wants to know) and chat to them about it,moan all you want and if its another PND suffer let them moan too, you may find talking to someone you cant see abit easier.

It does take time but you will get there (i know everyone says it) but i got to the point after a really bad patch of saying "im not letting you win PND,im stronger then you and will beat you" and it has work. i know its hard to think positive when everything seems so grey but each and everyone can beat it! Dont feel guilty if like many of us you need a helping with anti d's, thats what they are there for and in the long run they will help!!

i hope ive been abit of help! if i haven't i apolygise!!

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