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Posted: 28 January 2008 at 12:36pm | IP Logged

 I saw the doctor today because I have been experiencing intense pain when I have tried to have any intimate contact. At new year I had a lot of pain and some bleeding after penatrive contact. Since then even without any penatrive contact Ive had a lot of pain and discomfort. Last year I would push him away and we wouldn't even try but noingI have been trying but the pain gets so bad that he feels guilty, I feel guilty and then we both end up upset and apologises, which is not good!

My doctor has done some basic tests to rule out infection but they did this when it first started being sore (but was mainly only penatrive when it hurt) and the results were clear. She said it is best to rule them out, but on examining me she thinks one of my cysts have grown. She said PCOS can cause pain when being intimate, but it shouldn't cause bleeding. However if one of the cysts have grown then it could explain the bleeding to. She said if the results come back clear (as she expects as she couldn't see any sign of infection), then she'll request a scan at my next consultation with my PCOS doctor in February. I am not sure what it would mean if it is the cysts. I feel completely in limbo and I am not sure what to do. My partner keeps telling me that sex isn't the be all and end all, but I feel like Im letting him down. I know thats silly when Im thinking logically, but I get myself in a right state over it sometimes. I feel totally unwomanly.

Does anyone know what it means if my cysts are enlarging? If they are growing could that be why my abdomen pains returned this month (they were settled on Diante for almost 3 months then returned for no reason this month)? I feel like it never rains but it pours where this PCOS is concerned. Just when I think I understand whats happening to my body it all starts to change again.  Sorry for moaning I just feel really isolated, and as good as my partner is at listening, he doesn't understand and I know seeing me upset makes him feel bad so I try not to get upset about it with him.

Posted: 28 January 2008 at 4:08pm | IP Logged

Awww Chris you poor love, xxx.

I can't offer any help on the PCOS but we are all here for you when you need a weep or a vent. Sex isn't everything no, but it can be hard to have a relationship without it. You and your man seem to have good communication between you both and that is so important.

Posted: 28 January 2008 at 6:34pm | IP Logged

Hunny it's good that your chap doesn't expect you to put out to make the relationship.... and that he values you for you..... true love.... but you're right sex isn't the end of the world, but it is hard when you can't but want too.... i get like that sometimes (ok it's for a different condition) but it is really soul destroying.... but you are a woman and you are who you are from the inside... you have a lot to offer anyone.... so try not to seel yourself short.

Ok... cysts.... it is highly likely that they and the pain are linked..... cysts as far as i know are benign and grow because they are attatched to a blood supply which they feed off..... It might mean an operation to get rid of them but i can't say for certain only your doc can..... What it means is that it might be pulling or rubbing on some tissue which is causing a bleed.... i can't say why these things just suddenly start hurting but my guess is because it's irratating and making your tum sore, which is why it's suddenly come on.... but like i said i'm only guessing.... it's nothing you've done it might just be too big for it's location if that makes sense.

Don't apologise for moaning hun, you're allowed to be down in the dumps, at least it proves your human :) Take care and you know where we are xxx

Posted: 28 January 2008 at 10:07pm | IP Logged

erm.......have you suggested vaginal atrophy to your doc yet...might be worth a try chica!  your pcos wouldnt affect the erm initial penatrative side of things.

Surgery sounds your best option after having ultrasounds on checking the size of cysts...the pain will be from when the pop chica.

Posted: 29 January 2008 at 9:38am | IP Logged

Hello - Like the other girls I have no advice so im useless im afraid but sounds like you've got a good man and he is very supportive! I think you should carry on to share how you feel because im sure you would support him if the tables were turned.

I had a look on the net for what vaginal atrophy mean't and heres what i got:

http://edition.cnn.com/HEALTH/library/DS/00770.html

Hope your feeling a little better today Chris xx