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Posted: 21 February 2008 at 12:34pm | IP Logged

Morning All

Am a little shell-shocked today,we had another meeting with Kira's head and her class teacher yesterday. The meeting itself went quite well, her behaviour is slowly improving, the addition of allowing her a biscuit at 11am seems to have stopped the horrendous episodes pre lunch and she's generally more biddable.

They also said however that they want to put her on the Special Needs register, god it hurts to type that. She's wonderful, as perfect now in my eyes as the day she was born. Am finding the officialness of it all really quite hard to accept. I know in my head that it's for all the right reasons and is the way to get her the extra input she needs. I just don't like the label.

I don't really know how to describe it.

It just hurts.

They are going to draw up an IEP for her, stuff like lining up in a calm manner etc. To try not to crawl around the class when bored and also they want to put in an academic portion as they feel she is selling herself short and can acheive much more than she currently does.

The head did say that she doesn't necessarily have to stay on the register for the rest of her school life and if her improvement continues then she could come off it again...but also added the file would of course stay on record.

Why is it that when it's all so positive really I feel like the bottom just fell out of my world? Am I completely over-reacting?

Help

Kate

Posted: 21 February 2008 at 1:45pm | IP Logged

Thanks.

I'm a bit surprised at myself tbh. It's not like I'm unaware of the issues she has, nor is it a new thing the last 18months has been ongoing. It's just the officialness of it all I think.

I have a million thoughts in my head, if we relocate (which is under discussion atm) will it mean another school won't accept her? Will it affect her chances at job/college interviews in her future life? Does it mean I've let her down? Like I said a million things. But it isn't new it just has a name, and yes she's getting what she clearly needs.

Must get my head around this, we're awaiting an appointment with a paediatrician and he might give her another label so I really have got to sort this out.

At the end of the day she's still mine and still gorgeous so I should be thanking my lucky stars not stressing over language used to describe her. I just don't seem able to today, will time help do you think?

K

Posted: 21 February 2008 at 4:34pm | IP Logged

Hun

I know how hard it is, my son has been labled with damp (for of adhd) as nice as it is to get someone to recognise daily battles and problems it's worrying for the way he might get treated when he's older it's not clear the futrure etc

Good luck it's hard to accept but hopefully the level of help you'll get and the changes you'll see in her will hopefully makes things a little easier to comprehend