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Posted: 06 March 2008 at 12:54pm | IP Logged

I started my af on Monday with horrific pains, I have to admit I was extremely relieved.  However I have been losing clots, so popped to the docs yesterday(with samples), he says I have had a miscarriage.  I'm to go back in a couple of weeks and discuss the possibility of maybe having a hysterectomy after I have had some time to think about it.  Due to having the two little ones, and needing to be able to drive back and forth, with the recovery time, it may not be possible, without calling on mom like I did after my c-section.  So it looks like that might be my only option.  I was in tears while talking to him (which must have been quite a novelty as I am usually so calm lol), but he seems to think that a hysterectomy could be a good idea, especially with some of the adverse health problems that seemed to have come up, including my mental health. So a good think and a tough decision to make, but I have some time for now to think it through at my own pace.  Oh and I have to have 'protected' sex from now on just in case!

Posted: 06 March 2008 at 1:10pm | IP Logged

I was wondering how you were - thought maybe I'd missed a post saying af had arrived. Sorry to hear you've had to go through this - what a lot of different emotions you must have felt this week. A big decision to make now too.

Am thinking about you.

xxx

Posted: 06 March 2008 at 1:18pm | IP Logged

Vix I am so sorry hun - what a rollercoster of emotions you must be feeling.

I agree that you need to make this decision in your own time, but remember we are all here to help you as we can.

Lots of love and hugs honey x

Posted: 06 March 2008 at 2:48pm | IP Logged

Awww hugs Vix, you must be feeling so numb and confused..... i can't begin to imagine the thoughts.

Big soft gentle hugs.... i hope you (and dh) get some time to yourself(s) to discuss and think about what now might be head.... I wish you all the luck with making this difficult decission.

Thinking of you hun x Take care x

Posted: 06 March 2008 at 3:28pm | IP Logged

Awww big hugs for you Vix. I'm so sorry to read this news.

Hope you get some space and time to think, xxx.

Posted: 06 March 2008 at 4:08pm | IP Logged

Thinking of you hunny. Horrible time for you and big decisions but you will make the right one.

Jain xxx

Posted: 06 March 2008 at 4:20pm | IP Logged

Mate its a toughie...but all the continual what ifs will drive you loopy.

TBH I would say have a hysterectomy...but make sure you ARE a candidate for HRT as you are chucked into the menopause head first with no arm bands if you have your ovaries removed!

It blooming hurts like there is no tomorrow, and childbirth is a doddle in comparison.  It takes a long time to recover, and believe me you are incredibly shakey for a LOT of weeks after having the op!

Have a chat with gynae if you get referred...end of day decision will rest with him if you are a candidate to have the operation.  Am around as and when