Joined: 13 June 2005 United Kingdom Posts: 8802 Gender: Female
Posted: 31 March 2008 at 1:34pm | IP Logged
Help me. I am in day 1 of potty training and I am already doubting myself.
Eds has so far had 3 accidents, done 1 small wee on the toilet and one small poo on the potty. He seems to struggle with knowing when he needs to go but tells me straight away when he has done it on the floor. He is 3 next month, is it possible he still isnt aware of when he needs to wee?
I dont want to keep changing so now I've started I dont want to go back to nappies although I have training nappies for nap times and going out.
Am I doing it all wrong? We have a sticker chart which excited him but he doesnt seem to be getting there.
Joined: 27 February 2006 United Kingdom Posts: 2259 Gender: Female
Posted: 31 March 2008 at 1:52pm | IP Logged
It is just a matter of time, they have to learn to feel the connection from the brain to bladder and vica versa, ds is still not there and he is 5 in July, he does have a medical condition though(encopresis), he can wee fine but poo is a real issue. With dd though, she did it herself, she has been really good but is still in nappies for bed but she is only 2 though, i fouund that massive amounts of praise works best for ds, good luck.
Joined: 27 October 2005 United Kingdom Posts: 1657 Gender: Female
Posted: 31 March 2008 at 1:53pm | IP Logged
Hi, I wish I could help but wanted you to know that you are not alone. Harry will be 3 in May and has no interest at all in using the potty or toilet. He will use the toilet if I put him on it but otherwise he couldn't care less. You ask him if he wants to go and he just says no. I am using pull ups at the moment because of his relunctance. I am trying not too get too bothered and know that when he is ready, whenever that may be we will get there. He is just a lot slower than my other 2 were . Try not too worry and he will get there in his own time. Oh yes we also give him stickers if he does use the toilet.
Joined: 12 June 2005 United Kingdom Posts: 5857 Gender: Female
Posted: 31 March 2008 at 1:58pm | IP Logged
On day 1 of potty training with Ella, she was not telling me that she needed to go, far from it. I took a week off work, decided that for the majority of that time I'd be at home and off we went. On Day 1 I was asking her about every 10 mins if she needed a wee. If she said yes, I'd put her on the potty. We had some sucess, but a lot of accidents.
Day 2, I was still asking her about every 10-15 mins and if she said yes, she'd go on the potty - this day we had more on target, but still a lot on the floor.
I had been letting her run round in her pants only up to this point but on day 3, I put trousers on and this made a massive difference as all of a sudden she realised that she didn't like the wet feeling on her legs. So armed with trousers on (easy access ones!) we carried on as before and got down to about 3 accidents that day.
This carried on all week and by the time she went to nursery about 10 days from starting, she was doing really well and only had 1 accident at nursery.
We've had several blips/setbacks/disasters since then and on many occassions I've question whether I started her too soon (she was 28 months) but I'm glad I stuck with it. We do have the odd accident now, equally we have days of total defiance as weeing herself on demand is Ella's favourite weapon if she wants to strop about something....
If Ed wants to do this, hang in there and stick with it. Try and stay at home if you can and make sure you've got pleanty of kitchen roll handy for the mishaps. Its hard and you'll feel like screaming but just try and keep calm so he doesn't pick anything up from you and make a point of praising him massively for doing anything on the potty/loo.
Have you got the potty in the room with you? Just so its easy for him to access it as to start off with, they only seem to realised that they need to go when they need to go NOW with no time to get to the loo.
I'd suggest giving it at least a week. The 1st few days here were wee city and really not nice, but it does get better and if it doesn't and you really feel after a week that he's not ready, then go back to nappies and try again in a few months time..
Joined: 19 April 2006 United Kingdom Posts: 551 Gender: Female
Posted: 31 March 2008 at 4:21pm | IP Logged
Try not to get to stressed but if you do feel stressed and dont think its going to work, forget and leave it 2 weeks then try again, also if your in pain with your spd then it might be worth waiting till your feeling more relaxed in your self, i have 4 los 2 dd and 2 ds and i think thats boys are a lot harder than girls but they are all different ds1 was brill he virtually did it himself at 2 yrs 4 months but he idolised his big sis and copied her but ds2 was a nightmare we got him all set at 2 years 2 months was brill for 5/6 months then went backwards to the extent he would just dribbled in his pants all of the time im sure he was just lazy and release a bit to give him comfort instead of actually going to the loo. he would be fine at nursery but at home nightmare. touch wood since he turned 4 in Aug it just stopped over night. good luck and you will get there xxx
Joined: 05 July 2006 United Kingdom Posts: 2389 Gender: Female
Posted: 31 March 2008 at 5:31pm | IP Logged
Firstly, I just wanted to mention there is no need for any parent to doubt themselves when it comes to potty training!! Its such a massive step for lo's to overcome, but once they are, you'll wonder what all this worrying was all for.
My advice would be to keep at it for a week, expect lots of accidents, and dont have too high expectations to start off with.. that way, anything he can achieve will be fantastic.
It sounds like he is capable of going when he needs to, so reminding him every 20 minutes will just help him remember what he needs to be doing. Dont think of it as failure if he doesn't quite get the hang of it this time, its just more experience your both gaining when you try again.. but im wishing you both the best of luck ditching the dipers! lololol x-x-x
Joined: 12 June 2005 United Kingdom Posts: 3467 Gender: Female
Posted: 31 March 2008 at 6:27pm | IP Logged
aww hun dont worry, like ive said in previous posts molly had loads of accidents in the first week but day by day they got less and less - she is doin great now and i feel so proud that i hung in there as i was gonna give up trying and try another time, so stick with it and im sure it will get better - its a big adjustment for them too when there so used to just peeing and pooing in a nappy but he will soon get used to being in big boy pants - goodluck madz luv jue xx
Joined: 11 June 2005 United Kingdom Posts: 8721 Gender: Female
Posted: 31 March 2008 at 7:40pm | IP Logged
The main thing is he has had successes. Focus on these and not the messes. As has been said it is only day one, and he has done well. Always give him a week first, if after a week he is still having more accidents than successes then re-evaluate, Fred won't wear nappies, but he's not properly ready for potty training as he tells me while and after he has done something, but I will be sorting the small toilet out ready for when the older ones go back to school next Monday!
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