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Posted: 05 April 2008 at 4:05pm | IP Logged
Ben started off in a Moses basket but it got to a stage at about 12 weeks that I wasn't getting any sleep, spending all night sat up in bed feeding, so I made the decision for my sanity to let him sleep in bed with me. (I was b/f). He stayed in our bed for about 4 mths then we put him in his own room and cotbed. I still brought him in with us most nights as he still woke up loads. He did eventually stay in his own bed for the majority of the night at about 9 mths. But we went through a bad spell of not sleeping when my dh was away with work. Ben was 18mths and was waking every hr. I was still b/f him occasionally, and again to save my sanity, Ben came into bed with me. When Dean got back we tried very hard to get him in his own bedroom again and this seemed to take ages. But now at 3 1/2 he stays in his own bed most of the night and even if he does wake up he settles well. He only sleeps with me if he is really poorly, and if dh isn't here! No room in the bed now lol!!! I wouldn't hesitiate co-sleeping again if I had another baby, even though it seemed to takes us forever to get him into his own room for all the night. At the time I was getting pnd due to lack of sleep and it was the only solution!
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Posted: 05 April 2008 at 5:36pm | IP Logged
Thats some good mixed answers on co sleeping and cot sleeping, just a question to all those who keep their little ones in the cot? We tried putting our daughter in the cot but she gets up in the middle of the night and starts crying, when she is on the bed with us she sleeps trough the night.
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Posted: 05 April 2008 at 6:37pm | IP Logged
Personally I didnt want to encourage co-sleeping. Not because of any safety reason but because I didnt want to have the hassle of reteaching my son to go to sleep in his own bed. I breastfed til 11 months - and through the night til 8 and half months. He slept in a crib in our room until 5 months and during that time I used to lift him into bed with me for feeding and quite often we would both nod off and my DH would wake and find us sleeping happily - him across my lap and me sat up!
My problem was allowing him to sleep with us as he would then see it as the norm as I believe he should have his own space to sleep and DH and I should have our space too - our bed simply isnt big enough I'm afraid.
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Posted: 05 April 2008 at 6:58pm | IP Logged
Quote: superparent
Thats some good mixed answers on co sleeping and cot sleeping, just a question to all those who keep their little ones in the cot? We tried putting our daughter in the cot but she gets up in the middle of the night and starts crying, when she is on the bed with us she sleeps trough the night.
Any idea why she is doing this.
Possibly because the rest of the bed is cold in comparison to when she's with your she's surrounded by heat....
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Posted: 05 April 2008 at 7:54pm | IP Logged
The other question hun is it at the same time ish everynight?
If so is there noise disterbance waking her?
Outside, birds a neighbour going or leaving home and shutting doors?
Are the birds singing?
Is the boiler firing up?
Sounds trivial but my hv told me that kids have a sleep patter of 90mins deep sleep then very light sleep where just walking past their rooms can disturb them and if they are cold or wet, she might be noticing when she's wee'd and that's disterbing (sp?) her.
Hope she learns to settle down again soon..... good luck in solving the puzzle.
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Posted: 05 April 2008 at 8:26pm | IP Logged
How long have u tried for before giving in?
I only ask because it takes children a long time to unlearn one thing (sleeping with u) and relearn another (sleeping alone) and u have to be consisitant for probably well over a week or even more, resettling and letting her go back off to sleep before she will learn to do it herself - you will have to leave her to cry which is hard but she needs to learn to sleep by herself.
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Posted: 05 April 2008 at 8:32pm | IP Logged
I've never had a problem getting my wee ones into their own cots after co-sleeping when they were small babies Madz. It was just a natural progression for them to sleep in their own beds from about 6 months.
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Posted: 06 April 2008 at 4:18am | IP Logged
To be very honest i have not tried putting her on her cot for a week, which we think we will do, and there is no sound at all that disturbs her at night.
I guess its just a matter of us trying it out for a period of time till she sleeps on the cot. Anyway I appriciate the help rom all.
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Posted: 06 April 2008 at 9:54am | IP Logged
Unfortunately consistancy is the key in situations like this. Its almost like controlled crying - be there to comfort her, but dont give in and move her back into bed with you or she will know all she has to d is hollar and you'll give in.
When my son was 8 and half months I realised his night time feeds were habit waking. I decided to stop and did a sort of controlled crying on him - it took just over a week and it really tugged at my heartstrings - but once he got it he started sleeping 13 hours a night minimum so it was obvious the feeds were not needed - you just have to think that its better for them in the long term.
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Topic: Does Your Baby Co-Sleep or Cot-Sleep
