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Posted: 05 April 2008 at 12:16pm | IP Logged
aww poor you hun (((hugs))), i wouldnt like it but its somethin that has to be done, like ive said in past posts you know your boys are having a great time and being well looked after they will be back in your loving arms before you know it, easy said the done i know but try and make the most of the weeks piece you have get loads of rest and pamper yourself and genrally just have some "me time" - they are only a phone call away if you / they need to talk, take care and have a wicked night out with chris tonight - wish i could come hehe luv jue xx
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Posted: 05 April 2008 at 12:38pm | IP Logged
Other people not in your situation probably wouldnt even begin to understand how your feeling (yes, me!) as my kids dont leave me at all apart from going to school lol They wont even stay over at their Nanna's house for the night, without getting upset and coming home, so i wont say you'll be alright, because just thinking about it, makes me start shivering with worry.
I suppose in a funny, jealous way, i would actually like them to at least once spend the night at familys for their freedom and independance as well as mine.
I hope you manage to get through the week fine, and get plenty of sleep too. Like Jue said.. there always at the end of the phone for a reasurring chat. Big hugs sweetie. x-x-x
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Posted: 05 April 2008 at 1:18pm | IP Logged
I cant begin to understand but do often dream about what i would do if i had a weeks freedom but in all reality they are just dreams and i would be like you and in pieces, my eldest is always staying out at friends and family and i miss her like crazy but when shes back she annoys me like crazy!
Just recharge your batteries and have a few nights out, go to the cinema with friends or out for a few drinks or meal things you would like to do but cant because you cant get a babysitter. Enjoy the best you can and it wont be long till your snuggling up to them again xxx
My 4 are going to my mums tonight as we are going out, we dont go out much a couple of times a year if where lucky but i really dont feel like it tonight typical isnt it!
Joined: 11 September 2007 United Kingdom Posts: 2708 Gender: Female
Posted: 05 April 2008 at 1:21pm | IP Logged
awww hun i loose my eldest frequently to his dad and it's a wierd feeling not one that can be discribed easily.
I won't say don't love you and they will be home soon but remember your boys love you and will be excited about returning home to mum too.
At night time occupy yourself with chick flicks and popcorn till you burst, have warm candle lit bubble baths and all your fav food and enjoy it knowing you won't have to share it! If you can have a lie in.
Take care hun..... hugs x
Editied to add: as for sleeping if you need help don't worry, i tend to put the pillows in the beds and make it look like they are there at least that way i can kid myself that they are in bed asleep and if i check on them to make sure they're not splated on the floor it doesn't pull on my heart strings too much..... and yes i know i'm crazy i just wanted to share it with you. x
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Posted: 06 April 2008 at 10:03am | IP Logged
Thank you.
Sorry, I know I write about them going away alot, but I just need to get it off my chest. It;s something I dread, and any advice/support is always appreciated.
Mumof4 - I totally understand your view on having the opportunity for a break. It must be very hard not to have one, and I realise that I am lucky to have one.
Zanynut - that is so cute about the beds. I'd slept in the bunkbeds last night as Chris had mine, and I'd found that my little boy had tucked his two teddies in his bed! It was quite sweet, and made me smile.
The lads are having a great time, and for once are only down the road (the Peak District) as opposed to the other side of the world so I'm focusing on that.
Joined: 13 June 2005 United Kingdom Posts: 8387 Gender: Female
Posted: 06 April 2008 at 10:14am | IP Logged
Zoe I wish I had some wonderful words of wisdom.
I am normally only apart from eds over night while my mum has him and I worry all the time then. When I went on my honeymoon without him for 10 days I cried whenever I saw another child.
They'll be back with you before you know it - I know its difficult but TRY and enjoy your freedom and your ability to do as you wish when you wish - and enjoy the quiet!
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Posted: 06 April 2008 at 10:18am | IP Logged
Bless you hun.... i also sleep in their beds! lol
With them being so close could you not arrange to meet up and have a big old picnic? I would be sorely tempted.
It is hard and i hate my eldest stoping at his dad's he has him in school hols summer 2 weeks and a week in the others somewhere as well as every other weekend! Thats when he's not cancelling as he's not that reliable!! It sucks having to share custody/resediency so my boy's bed gets made up and stuffed quite frequently!
Please don't apologise about posting about missing them.... you're a mum and you love your kids dearly, i'd be worried if it wasn't a case of heart strings being pulled, even though like steph says it does get easier but the heart strings still pull..... take comfort in knowing they love you and are having fun and are probably counting down the sleeps too till they see mummy again.
Joined: 07 June 2006 United Kingdom Posts: 4080 Gender: Female
Posted: 06 April 2008 at 10:26am | IP Logged
It is tough chica. I dont sleep in tasjas bed, but, always carried on the same routine as if she was still there...as in checked on her before I went to bed...just opened her door and said...night night baby...
I know she wasnt there, but it always made me feel happier. Youve just got to try and get your head round it, its still early on for you. But, it DOES get easier. You could try writing a diary for them for when they are away, not that theyll ever get them, but it might help you if that makes sense. It does take a lot of years to adjust to it.
Take the time to recharge your batteries (or get a hangover your choice lol).
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