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Posted: 14 April 2008 at 6:12pm | IP Logged

Hi

Just a note to say got the keys ok and have started moving everything from old house to new.  We have been really spoilt as the owners of our new house have cleaned so thoroughly that there is very little to do, they even left us a bottle of wine, some chocs and a card!

Got a van booked for this weekend for the big stuff but with things still up in the air on the old house not sure how much to move over (once we move out our furniture the dodgy bits start to show! lol.

Have spent most of today phonig all the companies I can think of to tell them my new address (Sky/phone/banks ettc).  This job is the most tiresome as I have spent most of the day negotiating my way through complicated call centre systems and being put on hold for ever!  Got the most important ones done before I lost the will to live!

An update on ?spd - I saw my midwife last Thursday who jsut said what I described was "normal" and when I mentioned mild spd she just looked at me like I was an idiot!  I have been coping alright during the move so far but feeling pretty useless as I have to sit down  (or preferably lie down) a lot of the time to stop the pain.

Have booked in with doctor for later this week to get a proper opinion.  until then lots of baths and tlc from DP.

Before I go - I may not be online between now and next Tues as BT Broadband being transferred to new address.  They said that the Broad band and phone would go off today but strangly although the phone has gone the Broadband is still working!  Fingers crossed I may get on for a few days more.

Speak to you soon

Love Hen x

Ps my new house (sorry you are probably not that interested but I am excited! - lol):

The front:

and the garden that I fell in love with and made me want the house (long garden split into three gated sections - decking/lawn and pond:

Posted: 14 April 2008 at 6:32pm | IP Logged

Awww hun the house is just brill......

i love the garden too a section for adults and a section for kids and the fact that it's all gated means the safety side of things are fab the pond look just fab...... are you looking at keeping the pond or turning it into a step down sandpit?

Hope the move and bt transfer etc all goes smoothly, as for mw.... see your gp either way if it's nerve pain or spd if you follow the spd guidlines it should help..... as for packing get others to bring the bits to you lying on sofa etc and you pack and wrap! then you know where everything is.

Good luck hun x

Posted: 14 April 2008 at 7:04pm | IP Logged

Aw hun..

You must be sooo excited, the house looks fab!! Where excatly is it?

I really hope you're happy there hun and it brings you all the luck you deserve.. (you never know, maybe it'll 'magic' away your SPD - we live in hope eh??) Good luck hun and please, please take it easy...

Posted: 14 April 2008 at 7:46pm | IP Logged

I too had to sell my house when I was pg and had a buyer take an eternity had to pull out on the house I orgininally was moving into. So my deepest sympathy.

My situation was different though as I split up with an ex & then became pregant  3 months later with my current partner.( I thank God I did not have any kids with my ex!). My current partner was renting from council but we did not want to bring a child up in the property as one of the walls used to run with water in the second bedroom plus it had taken the council 8 weeks to sort out his hot water & the heating was just a gas fire, the radiators were never fixed! Plus as my ex was a gambler I had to pay the mortguage so we could not afford two places.

However on the brighter side we now live in a friendly neighbourhood on the train line it is approx 10 minutes from my mums & although we rent I have money in the bank and a lovely 3 1/2 year old and Great Partner & Dad.

Best Wishes I hope things work out as they did for me.

Some "smileys" from my DD who's just off to bed.

Posted: 23 April 2008 at 4:06pm | IP Logged

Hi - I am back online!!!

Settling into the new house, the lounge and bedroom are tidy and unpacked so have two refuge places!  The rest is coming along slowly but not sure how I can move into a bigger house and not have enough room fro everything that came out of the small one!

On a really positive note, last Tuesday we had a cash offer for our old house and whilst I am trying not to get my hopes up too much after last time it seems much more promising - basically a grandfather is buying it as a house for his granddaughter to live in whilst she is at uni (he is also a property developer)!! Things are already moving and survey booked in for 29th April.

Personally I think all students should go through the living in a communal dive with mould, damp and arguments about the washing up and cleaning, I had to!! But I do need to sell the house ASAP! 

That house is now very empty and looking filthy, I thought I was ok at housework but obviously not....  Just need to get back there for cleaning this weekend and we are done.

New neighbours seem nice, on the side I am attached to is a mum with a 2 month year old who seems really nice, and hopefully will understand if my little un turns out to be a noisy crying baby!!

Missed my GP appointment due to traffic problems and annoying hitler receptionists, however, started pregnancy yoga last week and the teacher agreed my symptoms was likely to be mild spd, saw the midwife again yesterday and she seemed surprised that I had not been referred to a physio - until I pointed out that she told me it was normal pregnancy twinges at my last visit!  She seemed very embarrassed and has now referred me for physiotherapy at the hospital, wonder how long that will take!

I have also received an appointment with ante natal mental health for 29th April (regarding my panic attacks, palpitations and anxiety), I feel a fraud now though, I still get palpitations every other day or so but with things being more sorted in my life I am feeling less depressed and tearful.  Should I cancel?  I still have bad days but no panic attacks for 3 weeks.

Sorry for the very long update, as usual once I start I can't shut up - especially when I really should be working (3 weeks to go!).

Hope you are all well

Love Helen x

Posted: 23 April 2008 at 4:29pm | IP Logged

Glad things are looking up for you, and you're getting settled in the new house. It looks lovely! Hope we get a nice summer so you can really enjoy your garden.

Hopefully your physio appointment will come through quickly. I saw my midwife on Monday, and mentioned that my SPD has been really niggling, and she said basically 'Oh well, you know what to do, keep your legs together' and gave me a sheet of paper with some drawings of getting in and out of cars etc. - and when I asked about a support belt she said you can't have one til 28 weeks, then you can go on the net and find the best place to get one!!!! Hmmm - and there was me thinking things had improved since I had Ruthie!!! Will be a bit more vocal the next appointment if things are any worse. Hope you aren't too uncomfortable at the moment - make sure and relax as much as possible, and don't over-do it cleaning that house!

Good luck with this buyer - will keep everything crossed for you it all goes through this time.

xxx

Posted: 23 April 2008 at 6:02pm | IP Logged

Firstly Welcome back hun, secondly i'm glad to hear your house is starting to feel like a home to you, it really does look fab!

As for the mw and the egg that she is sporting.... shame on her and i hope you have the guts to report her or at least make her squirm with it! I hope the physio department come back to you with an appointment soon but in the mean time pelvic floor muscles and buttock clenching..... and all the self help tips meantioned in the madmum's spd article hun will hopefully prevent it from getting worse.

I think it's sweet that the possible buyer for yours wants his dd in a house and not one thats falling apart at the seams but i understand where your coming from, it's just a who different scene now days lol god that makes me sound old! lol

How are you coping with work etc.... give us a bell if you need to chat at any time.....

Oh now you've been told you where right with mild spd as the diagnosis have you thought about your birthing plan and key positions? (give me a buzz if you wish to chat hunny x)

Posted: 23 April 2008 at 8:37pm | IP Logged

  Welcome back. Your new house looks super. I really hope you get some help for your spd soon.

  Enjoy your new house and try to rest and not spend too much time sorting things out( easier said than done I know)