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Posted: 12 April 2008 at 10:25am | IP Logged

Well im really sorry Ive been neglecting you lately but I really have just been totally having a crappy time. Things were slowly starting to improve, I have had my bedroom totally replastered so as I type this am covered in gloss paint hehe...however, I recently found out despite the fact me n rob have only been split up a cpl of months he is already in another relationship, and to make matters worse, was having sexual relations with this woman b4 we'd even split up. To say im gutted is an understatement....I gave him so many opportunities to tell me there was someone else when things started going wrong and he even took me in his arms and said there never could be. Im really hurt by everything that has happened and have even started having 2-3 nose bleeds a day which doc assures me is due to the stress of everything....

sorry to rant, just really needed to get it off my chest and I love u all so much on here and no you wont judge me xx

Posted: 12 April 2008 at 10:41am | IP Logged

Hi hun im so sorry your having to still go through this nightmare with your ex , ive never been through this situation of any sort so i cant possibily know how your feeling but i did want to say that you should feel abit better by knowing that if he did that to you he'll do it again to her , and also your not the liar or cheat ! This woman may be feeling like the cat thats got the cream but give it time and she'll have that cream on her face and wont be feeling so smug .

I hope this reads as i mean it to and you dont take offence you are going to be a wonderful mum to both your lo's and no doubta better one by doing it without the hassle of this 'man' i hope he still takes an interest in his children .

Posted: 12 April 2008 at 10:41am | IP Logged

I no that, but after an 8 yr relationship it doesnt make it any easier to accept.....especially as he is already not seein brandon very often and its me having to explain why daddy isnt around

Posted: 12 April 2008 at 10:42am | IP Logged

I am so sorry you are feeling this way right now, but i second what Sam has said, a leopard can never change its spots, so once a cheater, always a cheater! You are better off without him, and he can't ruin your life anymore! You are taking positive steps to a happy life, decorating your home how you want it to be!

I hope you feel better soon hun xxxxx

Posted: 12 April 2008 at 12:07pm | IP Logged

Awwww hunny,

You know how i feel as i know too many of us have been there and brought the t-shirts. My ex see's my son every other weekend but thats only as i had to fight thought the courts for custody.

The point is he fought me all the way and with much reluctance settled for every other weekend over night.... well since the new year kieran has had 2 visits (which involove a sleepover) he cancelled again last weekend and i get the phone call on friday night most nights. I only think he has access to him when he does to keep his parents happy.... a glorified handbag!

Ok i'm waffling....At the end of the day your lo's will understand their dad for who he is...... it's hard when they are young but they unfortunalty learn to live without the heartache but the let downs as they expect it.

Hope this makes sense as i really think i've gone off point, but your a good mum and your doing a fab job..... as for the nosebleeds try to chill out hun he's not worth it..... i know it's hard but you are better off and the years you where together will have good memeories but try not to think of the bad ones..... focus on your kids and yourself hun as you are the important ones!