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Posted: 21 May 2008 at 4:50pm | IP Logged

hi all, had doc appointment this am, going back beginning of next week though.Couldn't get in to see proper gp so had to see locum. Not that she isn't a real doc, lol

Anyway she has sighned me off for another two weeks, took sick note into work, felt really uncomfortable with the girls. The pharmacist was fine with me, I was very  zonked out though. had been up from 4am in pain and had 150mg of amitriptyline last night and still woke up.

I am soooooooooo very tired rang dh up and just ranted at him, he's not dealing with me being ill at all well. He tends to ignore things bury's his head.

I confronted him this morning about not coping very well with things the way they are, he did say that surely this can't be it and you have to live with this for rest of life. He is putting everything on the support belt, thinks  i will be jumping about, says he feels helpless, which i can understand.

I'm exhausted with everything.sorry for the maon and rant everyone

don't know what i would do without this site

big hugs jackie

Posted: 21 May 2008 at 7:09pm | IP Logged

Awww hunny i wish i would wave a magic wand and take away the pain and suffering that many of us go though.

I wish i could say things that will make you feel like it will go away.... thing is i'm still fighting to find ways to keep going.....

Best bet is to try everything and anything that you can....

Physio, acuepuncture (sp), chiropractor, pain clinic, possible referal to rhumetology to get hypermobility as a cause ruled out.

I hope that your dh comes to understand that you might not get fully better but hopefully you'll gain more mobility over time but he has to remember rome wasn't built in a day and anything with muscles and ligaments takes ages to heal (i think it's twice as long as a broken bone...i might be wrong though).

As for feeling awkward i still have moments of feeling awkward and it really bugs me. I hate being the centre of attention or you hobble in to a room and no one knows what to say and they just look at you or should i say the crutches/wheelchair...it's annoying. It doesn't get anybetter but you learn to adapt and have to find a way to come out of your shell and start the converstations.

If it helps my dp bury's his head in the sand a bit but then has days/weeks where hes the other way.... bubble wrap eat your heat out, i found from chatting to my dp that he doesn't know what to do to help, like washing up or hoovering he doesn't know the routine or how or when it needs to be done so if i ask him to do something then it gets done (bit like a child) but if i don't he'll sit down and do more work at home.

Good luck hun it's hard to find a way forward but you both have to accept your limitations and that things might change better or worse, take each day at a time but always make yourself get up and out of bed..... and remember that you are alive yes it's pants sometimes but you are alive and you will see your kids grow up etc.....

Hope that doesn't sound too harsh hun, but have you also thought of showing him some of the posts on here to help he realise what it does and how it can limit us?

Good luck and you know where i am if you need me.

Posted: 23 May 2008 at 11:33am | IP Logged

jackie, it's so very hard to try and stay positive when all that you feel or see around you is negative but hold on. remember, we are here to walk through the hard and dark times too and hold your hand. i know it's not the same as dh but if we help a bit use us. you're in pain, minimal respite and your life has changed beyond recognition. think of it as a just for now not forever. who knows what the future brings? tomorrow could bring many different things than today and find something that is a positive. this is so bloody hard when your life has come to a standstill but when you can enjoy a cuddle with lo or dh, the cheekiness of a smile or remark made by lo's. the fact that you are and will always be the most important person in their lives. i know i sound as though i have been on happy pills but no it's because life has dealt me a bit of a hard time and it's become a survival technique to stop me cracking up. i had losts of terrible things happen but the worse was when i lost my brother in iraq. he was on the hercules plane brought down in jan 05. i miss him so much. the aftern=math has been horrific and we still do not have a completed inquest. i will make myself find a focus.it has been somthing as daft as feeling the sun on my skin. things may seem so scary right now but i'm always here.

hubby's tend not to deal well with us being unwell as we are the glue that holds it all together and though it's not helpful to you for him to stick his head in sand, sometimes they just don't know what to do and he realised your worth and is having difficulty functioning. stick with it he will get there. i guess you need more than what he can or is giving you but hold on hun, don't lose faith. it's completly natural, and yes it is really unfair when you are going through all this.

i intend just to offer help and comfort, i hope that is what i am doing. i know it probably isn't mush use to know that you are not alone but i've got my scary work meeting this afternoon. i work in neuro itu as a staff nurse but i have not worked since a fall in feb. they are not understanding like they could be and i feel practicaly alienated from my colleagues as they as nurses are frustrated by this all as they do not understand what is affecting us.

take lots of care

PM or post if you need anything.

Posted: 23 May 2008 at 11:53am | IP Logged

oh thankyou so much, it does help alot to know there are people who understand. I feel a bit of wuss sometimes, especially when i hear what you have been going through with your loss and then fighting for the truth. Hope you get what your seeking soon.

huge hugs to you and good luck with your meeting at work

jackie