Joined: 27 January 2007 United Kingdom Posts: 148 Gender: Female
Posted: 23 May 2008 at 7:43pm | IP Logged
My DD is 3 1/2. This coming week I'm home to work on a psychology essay & seminar. I'm on the verge of finishing my Access level 3 with just 3 weeks to go.
However over the last few months DP, who is the SAHD, has been struggling with DD, both bad behaviour including the fact that he's usually bitten at least twice a week, today he got bit twice in one day. We've tried him biting back just gentle to give her pain, a tap on the backside, she hits back and putting her in her room, where she's broken numerous objects by throwing them across the room.
Also every morning, lunch & tea (dinner) she's constantly asking for "sweet" things from cake to chocolate. We don't generally give in and we then have to prevent her from scrambling up on top of the worktops to reach the top wall cupboard shelf where we keep the biscuits. If we don't stop her she'll be ontop of the units even if there are no "goodies".
Joined: 11 June 2005 United Kingdom Posts: 8520 Gender: Female
Posted: 23 May 2008 at 7:58pm | IP Logged
Ask your hv or doc to refer her for her behaviour. I'd get rid of any biscuits and sweets etc, and put her onto an all healthy food diet. It may seem harsh, but I can only give Fred choclate or sweet things in very limited doses.
Joined: 27 January 2007 United Kingdom Posts: 148 Gender: Female
Posted: 23 May 2008 at 8:13pm | IP Logged
I had been wondering for a while whether to get her "referred". I must admit when I was watching tv programme last night I could empathise with the staff at the behaviour school when the children where lashing out.
Joined: 11 September 2007 United Kingdom Posts: 2742 Gender: Female
Posted: 23 May 2008 at 8:37pm | IP Logged
Hun if your in any doubt go see your gp and ask for a referral. At the end of the day violent behaviour is horrific and heart breaking regardless of the age.... also be prepared to fight for it as some gp's i've know in my time are happy to say it's a phrase!
Joined: 14 October 2005 United Kingdom Posts: 3367 Gender: Female
Posted: 23 May 2008 at 10:11pm | IP Logged
Have you ever had her blood sugar levels checked by the docs?
The reason I ask is we have been scratching our heads over Lily's sometimes bizarre tantrums - one of my friends mentioned that her sister used to do the same and the docs said it was because her blood sugar level was dropping between meals
All she needed was to eat something light (even a plain craker helped) to boost her on and she was good as gold again
I have been watching and noting when Lily is at her worst and there does seem to be some similarity so have been giving her something just a bit of fruit usually to tide her over until her next meal
Lily has had her blood sugar levels tested and we are due back at the hospital in a few weeks for those and a few other results
Sorry if I am talking nonsense here but thought I'd share my experience with you - if you are really concerned maybe have a chat to your doc and see what they say
Joined: 27 January 2007 United Kingdom Posts: 148 Gender: Female
Posted: 14 June 2008 at 12:47pm | IP Logged
Funnily enough she used to complain of seeing "green dots" not long after she was able talk. She's not mentioned it for sometime but it is probably worth pursuing this route even if it is just to rule it out.
I too have had a few "scary" experiences with blood sugar levels with ringing in the ears and vision problems, though I've been tested for diabeties numerous times with negative results.
Do you know what age the test from, as last time I was told she was too young to test for it when I mentioned my concern to the doctor?
Joined: 11 June 2005 United Kingdom Posts: 8520 Gender: Female
Posted: 14 June 2008 at 8:14pm | IP Logged
I thought my dd had diabetes, although she was just turning to double figures, my boss does have it, so he gave her a pinprick test! She was fine, if you are bothered take her to the gp, better to be safe than worry for months about it
Joined: 11 September 2007 United Kingdom Posts: 2742 Gender: Female
Posted: 15 June 2008 at 8:11pm | IP Logged
Urm not sure if anyones intrested i was flicking though a tv guide earlier and saw a program called 'my child won't eat' advertised, now i'm home for the life of me i can't remember the day! lol
I think it's on Tomorrow (monday 16th), but it's definatly on ITV1 at 8-9pm.
It's all about food fads, hot food phobia's etc might be worth a sit down
Joined: 12 June 2005 Germany Posts: 801 Gender: Female
Posted: 15 June 2008 at 9:01pm | IP Logged
Hiya,
My eldest, Cerys-Jade, was 3 in May. She had a diabetes test done about 5 months ago at my request because of her behaviour. She was also demanding foods, having tantrums, lashing out, weeing a lot etc etc. She was negative.
She is fine now and I think part of it with CJ was a phase but I have also changed what she eats and made sure she has two snacks a day... one at around 10am and another around 3pm, she was only having one before because that's all she had needed. If she asks for extra food as long as it's not too close to a meal I let her have a bit of carrot, a small handful of grapes, some raisons or a mini babybel cheese something small and light and this seems to have worked. I also found I have had to be extra strict with her recently, even as far as grounding her in a way but I think she has picked up some bad behaviour from the older children who play outside (our gardens are all close together and all the children just play where ever). She is now back to the good (well most of the time LOL) little girl that we know.
It's definitely worth speaking to the doctor and trying to get a diabetes test so you can at least rule that out and see what your other options are.
Joined: 12 June 2005 United Kingdom Posts: 8750 Gender: Not Specified
Posted: 16 June 2008 at 9:26am | IP Logged
I think it sounds like normal toddler tantrums. Tom went through this phase, slapping, biting, stamping his feet until he got what he wanted. I would worry constantly over his behaviour thinking it was my fault, I was too lenient or too hard. In the end I just felt exhausted by the whole thing.
Anyway, I now use these Tom Tantrum Taming Strategies:
1) He had a 'thing' about biscuits. If I said no he would go and get a chair to help himself to the biscuit jar so I removed temptation out of his way while telling him no until he got the message.
2) I dealt with his tantrums by trying to ignore them. If he prevailed wailing and screaming he was put in his room for three mins until he'd calmed down. I would then go and chat with him, explaining why his behaviour was unacceptable and ask for an apology. He was only allowed out if he apologised, then we'd hug and not mention the incident again.
3) Biting. I admit I've bitten him back (gently) on the hand after he'd bitten me several times. This hasn't worked for Tom and he told the Nursery, which was highly embarassing! He tends to bite Max so I would ply the sympathy and attention onto his brother while completely ignoring him. Tom soon got the message that biting does not equal attention.
4) Confiscation is a useful strategy. If the lads threw their toys around after they're told not to I would take the toy off them.
The treat was to be strong, not give in and be consistent!
I have diabetes in my family. It's genetic, and funnily enough my eldest son has just been tested because he should some symptoms but nothing to do with his behaviour. We should get the results this week. His behaviour was and is nothing like his younger brother's (Max is fairly placid) so I'm not convinced that it could be linked to your DD's behaviour. I just think she's testing the boundaries, seeing how far she can go.
It isn't nice and is pretty exhausting but perfectly normal. If you feel like a shoulder to cry on post on mms again. There's plenty of support on here.
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