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Posted: 07 September 2008 at 9:42am | IP Logged
hi everyone, i'm julie, 32 from liverpool and i have a 14 month old son Jake.
I've found this site and was hoping that someone can help me with a little problem, well two actually. The first is bathtime. My son hates it. I've tried toys, sharing a bath with him, shallow and deep baths, warm and cool and i dont know what else i can do. He screams really bad and fights the whole time to get out.
The other problem is over night. Every night for the past few weeks he's stripped off, both pj's and babygrows (i dont know how he manages it) and he takes off his nappy and I can guarentee a big mess in the morning, everything is covered in poo and again i have to bath him which gets very daunting because of the first problem.
Can anybody help eliminate one or both of these problems?
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Posted: 07 September 2008 at 10:03am | IP Logged
Hiya Julie and a very warm welcome to madmums
Im Nikki, 32, mam to Lewis who is 3 and we live in Durham.
Im really sorry you are having this problem with little Jake, I'm hoping its just a phase with him. Have you spoken to your hv or your gp about it? Sorry I havent much to offer,I hope it gets sorted soon xxxx
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Posted: 07 September 2008 at 10:05am | IP Logged
EEEKK at your 2nd problem i may have to think more then that one!
As for your first problem, when it's not after the episode decribed in problem 2!
Here's what i often do if im running out of time or feeling really poorly etc. Get a face cloth/flannel and soak in warm water with a little soap to clean the body. Then your son can have a bit of a wash without the terror of a bath
ok been thinking. is it possible thatt he has a poo and then hates the feeling in his nappy so much that he strips off then takes his nappy off?
Edited by LANNYNEWMUM on 07 September 2008 at 10:11am
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Posted: 07 September 2008 at 10:33am | IP Logged
I have both your problems, the first one with dd1 and the second with both dd1 and dd2..
The bath problem, we took things slow.. we put her in the bath and if she started to screm we took her out, then put her back in when she had calmed down. this had gone on for over a year now, and its just in the last couple of week has she settled enough for us to wash her hair with no major problems. Some kids just don't like getting wet in the bath.. but you could use a flannel like Lannynewmum suggested.
second, the thing that has worked for us is a grobag/baby sleeping bag. they come in zip or poppers. we found the zip one was the best for us. Sellotape works well too, lol.
I do know how you feel about being greeted in the morning or after nap times with a smelly poop covered child, its really annoying, especially if you have a docs appt at 9.30 in the morning.. this has happened a few times, lol..
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Posted: 07 September 2008 at 11:23am | IP Logged
Thank you for your replies, I will have to try the selotape one tonight, why didn't I think of that much sooner? As for the bath, I dont think the issue is with the water, he went into his paddling pool great when we had a little bit of sun. He'll go in the bathroom, look into the bath but once there is water in it he runs off and when I go to catch him he starts screaming again.
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Posted: 07 September 2008 at 2:25pm | IP Logged
My sister had this problem with my niece. She would not go near the bath with water in it. She would go swimming but would not, for love nor money get into the bath.
The way she finally managed to get Grace in the bath was to allow her to 'wash' her toys in the bath, whilst she remained fully clothed stood over the side. She then made it into a game by letting her put her swimming costume on and arm bands. It worked after a while. It took time but eventually she got there. Is he like this with the shower?
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Posted: 07 September 2008 at 3:16pm | IP Logged
What toys are in the bath?
I make bathtime as fun as possible with games, quizzes, etc. Also I have got into the bath with eds at times to make him more confident. He went through a small phase of not liking water on his head but a holiday to spain with a swimming pool soon helped that.
As for problem no.2 - we did have that problem for a while but cant remember how i solved it. Ill get back to you.
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Posted: 07 September 2008 at 3:19pm | IP Logged
Hi, welcome to madmums!
The sellotape sounds like a good idea for the night time! With the bath problem could you not put him in the bath with no water in it? With his toys and just wash him with a flannel.. pool some water in the sink to rinse the flannel in. AFter a few times maybe put a small layer of water in, but still use the sink for the flannel and build it up that way? Hopefull he'll get used to the fact its not so daunting to be washed in the bath and get used to being sat in water.
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hi everyone, i'm julie, 32 from liverpool and i have a 14 month old son Jake. 
