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Posted: 06 October 2008 at 8:40pm \| IP Logged

I am used to being told naughty mommy from my 2, as every time I do something they don't like they call me naughty. However today it was different. Dd gave both the little ones a yoghurt each, however without thinking (as is common in teenage girls), she had left the top on Winston's. He couldn't take it off and no one was allowed to help, after 5 minutes of watching him struggle any which way he could, I refused arguments took the yoghurt off him and opened about 0.5cm so he could take the top off himself and gave it straight back, all of which took less than 10 seconds. By the time I had got it out of his hands he was screaming blue murder, by the time he had it back in his hands Fred was screaming the same. Now Winston I understand, I had taken food off him, which is a life and death thing lol, however Fred was crying saying that I made Winston cry and that was what was wrong with hm. Then he proceeded to tell me how naughty I was and to 'go away'. That I was fine with til dh piped up with shall mommy go to another room? The answer 'yes'. I popped up to the loo, came back down and straight away fred said you naughty mommy, you made fred winston cry, go away! I have to admit I had a few tears when they had gone to bed, but it's getting so hard to watch them beat each other up, hurt each other then the slightest thing have them 2 against me! Oh well, tomorrow is another day!

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Posted: 06 October 2008 at 9:45pm \| IP Logged

I know what you mean, i have a boy and girl age 2 and 3 and the older they get the more they fight and scream with each other. I can see why you got upset about them telling you to go away but don't let it bother you they are only little and are still developing and learning about emotions, i've been in similar situations myself and it can pull your heart strings i know.

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Posted: 07 October 2008 at 7:36am \| IP Logged

Oh vix hunny for dh to side with them like that is just plain mean. He is obviously oblivious to your daily battles and that must be soooo hard on you.

As for the lo's i can imagine it must be so difficult never being right and only appearing to be wrong. I hate it when lo's find their independance and don't want to do anything or have any help.

I hope you hear from the docs and the peeps you where referred to a while ago as it's not good to leave you hanging around with little or no support. We of course are here for you babes.

Keep going hun your doing fantastically with the tools and help you've been given. The only thing i can think of is to stop saying naughty to them (which i'm sure you have done and say naughty behaviour) and when they say something say to them please stop that makes mummy feel sad.

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Posted: 07 October 2008 at 8:45am \| IP Logged

Massive hugs for ya hunny, I know its not easy and yup you're gonna have little wobbles like this, but as usual, you just pick yourself up off the floor and carry on regardless, cos you have to.

As per our chat last night, bend my lug - thats what im here for and i will continue to be for ever!!!

Love ya and you are so so strong, will chat to you later hunny

Nikki xxx

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