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Posted: 26 June 2005 at 10:40am | IP Logged

Dp has left for amsterdam this morning. hes there for a week on business. me and eddie are housesitting for my parents and ive just realised i am going to get no break at all this week. dp doesnt do that much but eddie can be quite grouchy in the evening and it helps being able to share looking after him. feel quite lonely already.

I am also a bit scared that my depression will come back. I suffered for a few years and only stopped my medication whikst ppregant however the docs said they were happy with me and i didnt need them again. However it always used to get worse while dp was away, i once had a breakdown while he was in america and had to be signed off work for 2 weeks to recover. i feel ok but i cant look after myself when im like that, let alone eddie.

sorry girls need to get it all off my chest.

Posted: 26 June 2005 at 11:18am | IP Logged

I just got off the phone to dp and started crying. I feel ok, it was really stupid, edward cheered me up by giving me a huge grin and talking to me. I'm gonna take him out for a walk and clear my head. I think i'm so scared of it happening i'm making it happen.

xx

Posted: 26 June 2005 at 11:59am | IP Logged

When you have lived with depression the fear of it coming back and engulfing you again is often worse than the depression was.  Things might be different for you now you have Eddy and you have to care and focus on his needs more than your own.  You can do it, you look after him every day and he is a happy and lovely little boy, I love looking at your pics of him he is just so gorgeous. 

Try not to dwell on the past depression and move forward with your little family.  Make sure you get out of the house at least once a day to clear your head like you said yourself.  Make sure you eat and drink to keep your strength up.  Sleep when Eddy sleeps so you don't get over tired.  Stuff the house work.  I know you are housesitting so want to keep it tidy but do the bare minimum unless you feel up to it.

Try and get some sort of support net work.  You have us on here either post or chat with whom ever is around in the box.  Is there someone you can phone if things get on top of you?

I am betting you will be fine and very proud of yourself and how you cope this time.

Posted: 26 June 2005 at 2:23pm | IP Logged

As jen said if you start to feel really low than go to ur doc depression is not nice i suffer from it too and its hard for people who dont suffer from it to understand.  I am sure u will be fine but us girls are always here for everyone if  need to get things of ur chest.  Sending u loads of hugs..

look after urself and i hope ur be ok

Posted: 27 June 2005 at 7:35pm | IP Logged

Thinking of you Madz, if ever you need to chat pm me and i will get in touch i really dont mind. As mumsam said you have us on here and Eddie, who by the way is absolutely gorgeous you must be so proud.

I know how it feels to be isolated when i had dd1 i was 18 and didnt have the means to get about myself and my family lived 100 miles away and with dh being a chef he would be out the house sometimes 16 hours a day thats a long time with no real company, it was hard but through talking to my family on the phone regularly and phoning friends, going for walks helped too, i found i got through it okay.

i now rely on the internet t keep me sane lol, my dh thinks i am totally addicted and he's right. Chin up hun were here for you,xxxxx

Posted: 27 June 2005 at 8:40pm | IP Logged

Hugs to you Madz. I too have suffered from depression in the past and currently have PND. Like Thumbles, I found getting out of the house for a walk really helped me. I try and go for a walk with Ella at least once a day and it really does make me feel better.

take care hun

xxx

Posted: 27 June 2005 at 9:26pm | IP Logged

Thanks girls.

To be honest it hasnt been as bad as i thought. Had few tears but not bad at all and normally only after i've spoken to dp.

I have ,ade sure i get out and i'm meeting a mate for lunch tomoro so hopefully the week will fly by.

I know the signs so if i feel myself falling i'll see my gp.

Dont know what i'd do without you guys, like Thumbles, I too am addicted!

xxx