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Clara
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Help! I returned from a beautiful holiday in Jamaica last Tuesday where I also celebrated my wedding day! I came off my pill a couple of months before hand in the hope of conceiving. Since coming off my pill my periods have always been late, so I wasn't overly worried that I hadn't come on whilst I was away as expected. However, I took a pregnancy test on my return last Tuesday and was ecstatic when it came up positive! I Had suffered tummy cramps the whole time I was away (Also had an upset tummy so couldn't decide whether they were related to that or my period) and because of this my Dr immediately referred me to the hospital for an early scan. Although my period dates (which I am absolutely certain on) mean I should have shown 7 weeks pregnant, the scan showed only a fluid filled sac and a very small yolk sac which I was told was only common of approx a 5 1/2 week pregnancy. I was booked in for another scan in 2 weeks time but was told it was possible the pregnancy had just stopped developping and that I may or may not miscarry it naturally. I started to prepare myself for a missed miscarriage, although still secretly hoped for the best. Yesterday, a week later I discovered blood on the tissue after going to the toilet. This has happened on several occasions since. I have started wearing a pad but I am not experiencing heavy bleeding. It's just a brownish red when I wipe. I am still suffering tummy cramps and the occassional lower back pain, but I still also have pregnancy symptoms of tender breasts and tiredness. It may be worth mentioning I suffered chronic tummy cramps when I was pregnant with my daughter, although I'm pretty sure they did not last this long. I'm getting very scared and upset but I think miscarriage is looking like the most likely outcome here.  Any comments or advice would be greatly appreciated! Thanks! x
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| Posted: 26 August 2009 at 9:12pm | IP Logged
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Hi, I am sorry you are going through this worrying time at the moment. Unfortunately it's hard to comment because your symptoms could mean you are about to miscarry but they are also very common in early pregnancy. I bleed in early pregnancy with 2 of my children and they were fine, I also bleed in early pregnancy and miscarried. When I miscarry it does start off like you are describing but that type of slow bleeding that is brownish can go on for some time and it can also stop and start. You will still get pregnancy symptoms and a pregnancy test would still also show positive and can do up to 2 weeks after a miscarriage. It really is a waiting game for a while, I am sorry. I hope everything works out ok for you.
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Thank you. Yeah, waiting is the worse bit. It's so difficult to just get on with the normal day to day type stuff when I'm not 100% certain what's going on. The tummy cramps have continued on and off today but the blood seems to have completely stopped for now, so I have no idea. I guess if nothing more happens I have to wait it out until next Thursday's scan and discover my fate then.  I literally feel like everything in my life has stopped still until I know for sure. I have lost motivation and I have so much to be getting on with at the same time. It makes me realise how lucky I am to have my beautiful daughter though.
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The waiting and the not knowing is the hardest thing to cope with. I know what you mean about feeling like your life is on standby it's horrid. I hope it's good news for you try and not stress I know that is easier said than done, be kind to yourself.
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Thank you for your kind words. It does help just to know there are other people out there who will listen and have been through the same. I have seen the losses you have suffered and can only say you must be an extrememly strong and brave lady. There's still a little bit of me hoping for a miracle, but with what was shown on the previous scan and these persistant pains I'm not overly hopeful. Can I just ask whether there are any known reasons for your miscarriages? You honestly don't have to answer that if you don't want to. I'll totally understand if you don't. It's just difficult inderstanding it all at times, especially when like I do, you have other healthy children too.
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hi, in april this year i had a scan at 6 and a half weeks as i was cramping and bleeding there was a sac but nothing inside not even a yolk sac could be seen. i returned 2 weeks later and there was a baby inside with a yolk sac i was 8 and a half week. so i was 6 and a half weeks at the firt scan.
i bled for 10 days none stop and had severe cramping, they still dnt know what caused it but im now almost 22 weeks. the same happened to my neighbour but her bleeding was on and off and shes now 14weeks
good luck for next week i hope ur one of the lucky ones
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There is always hope, the way I coped with the not knowing is by thinking "today I am pregnant". I have no idea why I had so many miscarriages, Fin died because of Downs Syndrome it had affected our babies heart too badly, we were given the choice to end the pregnancy or carry on and see what happened but we were warned she probably wouldn't survive. We chose to carry on and she passed away at 16 weeks gestation. I miscarried a twin when I was pregnant with my son and although it was sad never thought it would happen again. We decided we would like a brother or sister for our son so tried, the first missed miscarriage was put down to one of those things, the second because I was expecting identical triplets and so they carry a higher risk, with our last misscarriage I just didn't think it could happen again, at 6 weeks we saw a baby with a heartbeat and all looked good, at 9 weeks the scan showed our baby had passed away. I turned 40 this year so we have decided we have been through enough over the last few years and not to try again. I knew this time it was time to quit and enjoy the children we have. I do hope things turn out well for you. I never thought I would get over what we had been through and I do still get upset but I know it's time to move on now and experience different things in life. Good luck
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Thanks Sam. You have had a really tough time and it does make me realise that if the worse happens I will be able to get through this.
Tilly, thank you for your positive story too. It does help to hear that despite the worry, things do still turn out well for some people! It's just scary when you're going through these things and don't know what the outcome will be. On the plus side, the bleeding hasn't returned at the moment. Pregnancy symptoms (tender breasts, tiredness and queasiness) are still persistent; it's just the chronic stomach pains that are still really making me worry. Less than a week to go then I can get on with things either way! I hope the rest of your pregnancy goes smoothly and you can really relax and enjoy it! Xx
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thankyou, the 2 weeks of limbo are horrible, i just tried not to think about it. and just thought bout not being preg than i couldnt have bad news onli good if u know what i said.
good luck for next week
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Hi ladies,
Sorry I haven't been on here for a while to update you, but it really has been an absolute manic few weeks with my emotions hitting new highs and new lows on what seems like a daily basis!
First the good news, my second scan revealed a baby complete with heartbeat! Hooray! As you can imagine I was over the moon and so relieved. The baby measured at 7 weeks and 4 days which means I must have conceived later in my cycle hence the previous scan not showing a baby as I was only the 5 weeks and 4 days that the scan suggested. I am now 9 weeks and 3 days. Thankfully, the tummy pains also seem to have completely subsided, but I am still feeling sick most of the day and extremely tired. I am happy to put up with both if I am blessed with a healthy baby at the end of it, which brings me on to my next set of new concerns...
I don’t want to seem like a jittery Mum to be worrying about every little thing, but I really am so concerned about this that I’m making myself ill. Whilst on holiday I spent a good hour in the hot tub (Which really was boiling) But it was a rainy day so felt quite nice at the time. I also spent the 2 weeks in Jamaica lapping up the sun. However, I have since read that the complications of prolonged heat exposure both in the sun and especially in the hot tub causes the increased risk of neural tube defects. Seeing as I would have been in the very early stages( prior to 6 weeks which is when the tube has safely closed) I am now worried sick that I have caused serious damage to my baby. I am going out of my mind worrying about this and could really do with some advice or hear if anyone else has shared a similar experience. Although I knew I was a week late for my period whilst I was away I didn't immediately expect pregnancy as my previous 2 periods were also late and my periods have always been irregular. I will never forgive myself if I have harmed my unborn child as I want this baby so much and I'll be beside myself if it has a serious birth defect. Please, please let me know what you think. xx
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