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Posted: 18 January 2010 at 9:27pm | IP Logged

Hi to all,

I am hoping someone out there will understand what i am feeling as no-one around me does.

I am a new mummy for the second time with twins that are 8 wks.  I have a older child who is 2 yrs.  I suffered pnd after my eldest and was worried that i would suffer it again.  I took all the steps to avoid it but as ive come to realise it really isnt something you can avoid.  I just feel really alone, my OH doesnt understand, my mum just thinks i need to put some lipstick on and tell myself im ok and i will do ( she also thinks its not fair on my OH, very supportive) and when ive tried to talk to my friends they say how do you have time to be depressed.  I went to drs today and she told me I should ask for more support and get more sleep. I am really struggling and dont know where to go.  It would just be nice to know that there is others out there in the same situation as me.

Posted: 18 January 2010 at 10:45pm | IP Logged

Hi and welcome to the site.

I had pnd with both my los. The second time was way worse than the first. the last thing I wanted to admit was I just couldn't cope. In the end I went to my GP and was put on meds.

every one is different but I would advise to go you your hv or gp.

feel better soon. x

Posted: 19 January 2010 at 9:54am | IP Logged

Oh hun. I'm Hazel and I have had PND twice as well. Took all preventative measures with my 3rd one, but I still ended up in the doldrums after he was born. You really sound like you need a break. I know it's hard but there are sometimes groups you can go to for pnd (I went to one for two years) and they usually run a creche, so you can relax and get all the feelings out.

You really need to go back to your GP or see a diff one and get yourself on the right road. I know I sound hard but the sooner you start on the right road the better.

Take care and we are always here for you, xx.

Posted: 19 January 2010 at 4:28pm | IP Logged

 hi, i so no how u feel i have 4 children and have suffered with PND with all of them , the twins were my first born and OMG no one who hasent had twins gets it, i was sick to death of people constantly saying what a gift they were and how lucky i was and what a joy , dont get me wrong they are a gift and special and a joy but there was this part of me inside that just didnt share the joy i was emotionally and mentally detached from them , i just went into robot mode and did everything i was meant to do, i kept looking at other people with there babies and thinking why arent i as happy as they all looked.

I went to the drs and the HV got me to fill out this form and i stupidly lied and ticked all the RIGHT boxes and not the boxes that really revealed how i felt , after a while i just lost it and started screamin at my partner at the time that i couldnt cope and i had no support, bless him too he didnt have a clue but then why would he as for some strange reason we woman dont like to let on we are struggling (maybe its summit to do with our upbringing).

Any way after the Hv came and the dr put me on meds they sent me to a PND group , omg i never felt so relieved to see all these other woman who new exactly what i was thinking and going through.

one baby is hard enough and the fact that u have had a baby and then had twins is hard by anyones standards , bearing in mind ure other child is only 2 and the twins are only 8 weeks im not suprised u feel a little low but hey u are pretty amazing coz u have admitted alot sooner than i did that u arent feeling tip top so well done u and i think ure amazing. My twins are 11 now and i love them to pieces but when i first had them my brain just went into shock u think about it ....how amazing it is that TWO little people came out of u at the same time and u have already got one little darling already no wonder we freak lol, all these lot this site are amazing and i have had some great advice from them all.

OOOps got a bit carried away with writing here lol, i hope u can go back to the drs and be persistant that u want some help u are entitled to a homestart worker if the y have them in ure  area who come to the house and can either watch ure kiddies whilst u have a bath or they can do washing for u or whatever you need  i still have one now who just comes shopping with me coz its hard with 2 little ones and they are a god send and a great person to let off steam at .

Cheer up hun sounds to me like ure doin a good job.

Much love and twin mummy to another twin mummy hug back

xxxxxxx  

Posted: 23 January 2010 at 12:26am | IP Logged

I was never diagnosed with post natal depression, however I am diagnosed with a mental health issues which encompasses depression.

It's so hard to look after yourself nutritionally, if not impossible with little one's never mind twins, but I do find that having omega 3 foods like oily fish or flaxseed or taking a supplement really helps me when I'm low. Bananas or breakfast cereal are also good.

Relaxation music too might help settle the twins and for a short moment or so give you some hope.

Massive hugs.

Posted: 28 January 2010 at 1:49pm | IP Logged

hi, just a wee thanks to say thank you for all your kind words and support.  I have now been referred to my local pnd support group and I spoke to my HV. 

thank you again x x x x