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Posted: 20 October 2005 at 3:33pm | IP Logged

i didnt bond straightway with max when he was born, but after about 3 weeks i did.  with tom it was instant.  i sometimes get down but wouldnt say it was pnd.  it was bad enough having the baby blues so i sympathise with anyone who has or had pnd.

Posted: 20 October 2005 at 3:43pm | IP Logged

I was VERY lucky. I had depression from when I was 16 (diagnosed at 18) until I got pregnant. I was due to increase my medication when I found out I was pregnant so I weaned myself off my anti d's (with the help of a councelling team) for edwards benifit.

I saw the councellers every month I was pregnant to give me support and I was warned over and over again that I was expected to get PND.

I didnt! I bonded with Edward straight away, even though my pregancy was awful and I had an emegnancy c section.

I am still off the anti d's and although I still get down days I feel much more positive than I have done for years.

Posted: 20 October 2005 at 4:15pm | IP Logged

good for you madz

ive depression in my family but fortunately i never suffered with it

i didnt bond with max partly because i had a nasty recovery and couldnt latch him on at first

but luckily i got over it

Posted: 20 October 2005 at 4:36pm | IP Logged

I didn't but massive (((((((hugs))))))) to those of you that did and are.

i'm here if you want to chat just not in the new chatterbox lol > i can't even get in it.

just send me a pm.

gem n leo.xx

Posted: 20 October 2005 at 5:55pm | IP Logged

my family has a bad history of depession and i have suffered from it for a few yrs,i have a v bad out look on life as some of you may realise if you read my post about my relationship problems recently,i bonded with bronia instantly,everything was perfect,but at the same time it just wasnt,i had the perfect family life etc n i just couldnt be happy,which made me feel worse...i didnt want to go bk onto ad so struggled on and eventually after lots of talking and crying got through it...same as madz,i have my bad days and am doing at the moment but im sure ill get through it...yoou r all a gr8 help,id be lost without you,

sorry its long...

xxxxx

Posted: 20 October 2005 at 6:00pm | IP Logged

i agree with lauren, i think it would be a different story if it wasnt for you guys.

when i get low i come on here and talk it through, if it wasnt for that i think i'd have gone back on the anti d's.

thanks girls xxx

Posted: 20 October 2005 at 6:30pm | IP Logged

i was on the verge according 2 h/v but i snapped out of it for Ryan. I still hav off days but i think every new parent does.

Hv told me i needed more me time so i try 2 get out of the house as often as possible even with ryan in the pram makes me feel better

hugs 2 every1 whos had it or is still suffering

Posted: 21 October 2005 at 9:46am | IP Logged

I had pnd after my first but purely and simply as he was a boy, not a girl! Mom had him for the most part as I really struggled, but I didn't find out about it til I had 2 more babies and 2 miscarraiges.  So far so good with this one, don't even think Ih ad the baby blues!

I get the occasional day where I wish I didn't have him, but it's usually just an hour or so if I'm really knackered, but the way I look at it, is at least I have you guys on here, as I think I would have lost the plot months back if I didn't!

Thank you all, you have no idea how much you have all meant to me over the past months, and how seeing some things that you are going through, makes me realise what an angel I really have, except when he screams lol

Posted: 21 October 2005 at 10:20am | IP Logged

aww girls, its good to know we all feel the same about the wonderful support we all give each other!

I am in the process myself as many of you know of getting myself on the even keel.  I guess I havent got PND because I dont feel bad all the time, I just tend to react very negatively to different situations, especially when times get hard or if there is a problem in our life, I dont like problems! But then who does??

I am getting thru by keeping myself busy, looking at all the positive and brilliant things that are going on in my life now and just really not dwelling on the bad things that are gone and buried, or should be buried. There is always somebody in a worse situation, I have been in lots in the past, and have now come through.

I only have to look at my 5 healthy beautiful children to count my blessings and every day remind myself things could be so much harder or different.  All we can all hope for is that our children are healthy, and that we have our own health ourselves.  Everything else falls into place, and life is what you make it!

Thanks girls for being there, you are all very special xxxxxxx

ooops sorry im rambling as usual

lots of love to all

lilybxxxx