Post Natal Depression Forum

Posted: 21 October 2005 at 7:09pm | IP Logged

i didnt

i thought i might as my mum had it with both me and my sister

strangely out of my group of 7 friends who had los at the same time those who have had pnd or been very low are those who bf

it could just be our group

we see each other every week and ring each other up to check everyones doing ok

what with them and this i feel like im very lucky to have such a supportive group of friends 

Posted: 21 October 2005 at 7:24pm | IP Logged

I had pnd with both of my daughters and was petrified I would get it again this time having had it before.  Touch wood so far so good it has stayed away.  I think some of it is the support you receive from friends and family the other part is the chemical inbalance. 

Really this time I had far more reasons to become depressed than I did with the girls with all that has happened to us as a family this year.  With Keith loosing his job and then being unable to work, being ill myself, having to return to work when it wasn't planned, etc.

Posted: 21 October 2005 at 7:40pm | IP Logged

I have PND at the mo, and have suffered from depression before - PND is so much harder I've found..

I've been on anti-depressants for 5 months now, although I had it straight from Ella being born. I think I actually started in the last 2 months of my pregnancy. The dr told me to try St Johns Wort but as I am "severe" apparently, it wasn't strong enough.

I'm going back to the docs either this week or next cos I feel that I'm getting worse at the mo. I'm sure a lot of it is to do with Ella not sleeping (oh yes, that old chestnut!!) but I really feel like I'm going backwards at the mo.

This site has been a real life line for me and the suport that I've had from individuals and from the site as a whole has been overwhelming.

Warm, fuzzy, cyber moment!!!

Posted: 21 October 2005 at 7:59pm | IP Logged

lol at you

warm fuzzy cyber fake hugs!

i do hope that those of us that have it feel they can talk to us

as im sure not talking and bottling it up is part of the problem

Posted: 21 October 2005 at 8:17pm | IP Logged

aww hun sending u big hugs hun x

I hope u start feeling on the up again soon x

xxx

Posted: 21 October 2005 at 9:14pm | IP Logged

I agree, I think talking it out does help.  Also not feeling isolated really helped me.  When I was stuck at home on my own it was much worse.  Never had the internet when the girls were babies.

Everything feels worse when you have lack of sleep!

Posted: 21 October 2005 at 10:31pm | IP Logged

You're dead right!!! Everything really does feel 1000 times worse when you're sooo tired...

Greedy sent me some stuff on controlled crying and theres a pic of a mum with massive matchsticks holding her eyes open - I know how she feels!!!

I'm ready Brooke Shields book "Down came the rain" at the mo - about her experience with PND. Its frighteningly similar to how I feel!

I did take a while to "bond" with Ella. I wouldn't have let anyone take her away from me, but I just didn't feel like she was mine. And it was worse as I didn't think I deserved her. Then, I just felt like she was so perfect, she deserved better than me. These are the sort of feelings that I'm getting again.

Its so hard to explain - its like this vice holding you round your chest, and I hate it. I know I will get better, but this hic-cup has really knocked me sideways...
I think its also cos its getting darker. I've had SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder) for the last few years, so I think its time to get my light box out again...

Anyway, thanks all.......... off to bed now...

Posted: 24 October 2005 at 10:06am | IP Logged

I have put 'YES' as i suffered PND with Harry, but with Louis there has been nothing,

Like a few of you i had sever depression when i was 17 and was on medication for it, when i found out i was pg at 18 with Harry the dr took me off them, i had quite severe baby blues with Harry but PND wasnt diagnosed until he was nearly 8months old, during those 8months me n dp had split up twice because of it, but once i was actually diagnosed i was put on medication and had a counselling sessions twice a week and the hv came once a week which really helped me n dp worked through it and eventually when harry was 25months i was taken off antidepressiants, two months after that i conceived with Louis and i didnt even have any baby blues with him,  i think i had one crying outburst,

My PND was awful, for the first few months before i was diagnosed i contemplated doing quite a few things that i couldnt even dream of thinking of doing now, those ppl who have it need alot of help and support because you can get over it, im just glad that my pnd never put me off having anymore babies as i know a few ppl who have had pnd & swore blind they were never going to have another baby!!

(((((((((()))))))))))) to those of you who need it x x x x

Posted: 30 October 2005 at 2:49pm | IP Logged

thanx alot for your comments on pnd

do you think it would be useful keeping this thread going as a support thread?

Posted: 30 October 2005 at 7:35pm | IP Logged

Yes - I think so.

I go to a mums group on a Wednesday morning and a few weeks ago, one of the ladies there just broke down in tears in the middle of the session. Her LO is 8 months old, and she has a 5 year old son, but had never heard of PND. In the antenatal classes round here, its never mentioned. They don't even mention the baby blues!!

2 days later, I bumped into her at the docs, and she'd just been diagnosed with PND. I know I've said it before but I wish that I'd known about it before I'd had Ella. It affects between 1 in 5 and 1 in 10 mothers - so why did I feel like I was the only one?!?!

So lets hope that anyone else who reads this and feels like they could be affected knows that they're not on their own...

Edited by Diz due to v bad spelling of word "session"... oops...