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Posted: 03 May 2006 at 11:33am | IP Logged

I have nearly finished Jordans second autobiography. I never realised she had suffered PND with her second son. She didnt seek help as she didnt know what was happening but she didnt feel she could bond with her son and everyone around her was winding her up and upsetting her.

I also watched holby city last night where a women with a 2 year old son was finally diagnosed with PND.

It upsets me so much to see/hear of things like this. I have had bad depression and I know what it can do to you - thankfully I sought help very early as I recognised the symptoms. I just wish it wasnt something we felt we had to hide. The stereotypes need to be changed so that people can admit how they feel. Sorry I'm rambling. It is good that it is getting more in the public eye and hopefully people who have seen the program will recognise the signs in themselves and seek help.

Posted: 03 May 2006 at 12:10pm | IP Logged

I totally agree madz, many people i know from my experience with pnd with Harrison was that alot of women feel as though they are failing as mother by having pnd which is completley not the case. So they therefor either dont admit to it or they dont know enough about it to recognise the signs

Its just another we as women have to deal with

Posted: 03 May 2006 at 1:26pm | IP Logged

It is scary, but I had pnd with ds1, and my dh was under the impression they would take him away if anyone knew, I didn't get it dealt with til after i had dd, and had a lovely health visitor.  I always called her my angel as I dealt with 2 miscarraiges and previous pnd with her! 

It's lovely to see how open the ladies are on here, I was very surprised at how much it would have helped me had I gone through it again with Fred!

Posted: 06 May 2006 at 10:07am | IP Logged

i think it is really good when people in the public eye come forward and honestly say that they have been there, it helps reduce the stigma of it.

it is a very dibilitating illness and people need to see that it can happen to anyone and that support is available

Posted: 15 May 2006 at 11:03am | IP Logged

Has anyone read Brooke Shields book - Down came the rain? Its all about her experience with PND, and its brilliant. I made DH read it as it totally summed up how I was feeling.

Apparently, she's done an interview in Hello or OK, not sure which. She's had another baby and hasn't had PND as yet with this one. I'm going to look for it today.

I think its really good that celebs are speaking out about it. Like we've said, its a horrible illness that is made so much worse by the stigma that people associate with the word "depression".

Posted: 15 May 2006 at 11:09am | IP Logged

i had pnd after my first baby but dident tell anyone as i thought that they would think that i dident love my baby and felt embarrased about it

it was after 3 months that i bonded with her but i love her to bits

i think that mw and health visitors should explain it more clearly so that no one feels ashamed

Posted: 15 May 2006 at 3:13pm | IP Logged

I agree with you mum+2+bump. I also think that it should be discussed more in ante-natal classes. It wasn't mentioned in the ones I went to, nor was the baby blues. The first I heard about the baby blues was when my Mum came to see me in hospital on day 2 and she said to me "oh tomorrow is when the hormones kick in and you'll be a bit weepy" - No kidding!!!!!

I've just bought Hello magazine with the Brooke Shields interview in and am going to read it later....

Posted: 11 June 2006 at 2:08pm | IP Logged

I'm really pleased I found this site today.  I suffer really badly from PND and am having a particularly bad day today.  DP's answer is to go to the docs to see if she'll up my dosage on my anti-D's.

However, seeing this today has made me feel a bit better.  It's good to see people talk about their depression so openly, as I never talk about mine.

I'll definitely be coming back on here to see how everyone is doing, and to, hopefully, get advice or know I'm not alone.

Forgot to say I have the most gorgeous little girl who is 19 months and such a handful.  I cannot beleive that however bad I feel, I would still do anything for this one little person.  She's my life.

Posted: 11 June 2006 at 2:44pm | IP Logged

Hi Livsmum, welcome to MM's.  Your not alone by any stretch of the imagination.  We have lots of people suffering from PND or who have suffered with PND on here.  Please feel free to ask anything or just have a general moan about how you feel.

I think men say that because they don't know what to do and they like to fix things so it's easy to say go to the GP and get more tablets.  It doesn't mean he doesn't care, just that he hasn't got a clue bless him.

You will feel better in time.