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Posted: 04 July 2006 at 5:56pm | IP Logged

Oh Hazy!!! You are NOT a failure and this is NOT your fault! I understand some of what you have been through - I have suffered abuse at the hands of my ex and I know what it can be like.

Make an emergancy appointment with your doctor and get help. Explain everything and show them your bruises. They will help Bex get the help she needs.

Wishing you all the love and hugs going!

xxx

Posted: 04 July 2006 at 6:20pm | IP Logged

Aww Gosh, i have never had to deal with anything like this, so im not sure i can help.

have you tried talking to her to find out why she is angry all the time? She seriously cannot treat you HER mother this way, and you cannot not do anything about it.

What has your dp/dh had to say on the matter? Is she aggresive with your other lo's?

I think you need to scare her in to facing upto her actions and if this means going to the police then so be it.

If you do nothing then she may think she can get away with it. 

I might be wrong here but it sounds to me like she screaming out for your attention. Do you do things together alone without anyone else? Maybe thats what you need?

Good luck hun x

Posted: 04 July 2006 at 6:33pm | IP Logged

Aww Hazy thats sounds awful, to be scared of ur own daughter is not a good thing. I really think u do need to get someone else involved eg the police & bex's teachers

My cousin was a problem teenager & my auntie was too scared to say anything until it escalated out of control affecting her school work & the life of everyone around her

i really hope you get to the bottom of the problem for both your sakes & remember none of this is your fault & we're all here for you

Posted: 04 July 2006 at 6:52pm | IP Logged

Hazy you cannot hit her back as she is a minor and it would be you up for assault

it is certainly not your fault and i do not want to ask this but is her behaviour out of character? if so, do you think she may be dabbling in drugs(i may be completely way off line here)  I'm sure her school will have a councillor that she can talk to-you in the meantime need to see a doctor and keep thoe photos to show her how she physically assaulted you.

the mother of bf is also way off line 'cos she is encouraging bad behaviour and her son could get done if he has underage sex with your dd. it may well be that uyou need to tell her you will inform the police if this happens again. 

please take care, keep us posted

hugs jo xxx  

Posted: 04 July 2006 at 7:52pm | IP Logged

Aww hazy hun i never knew things where this bad. 

I personally would go and see your doctor and get everything reported and maybe go down the lines of the police to scare her.   She cant carry on like this and its not fair on your family.  She needs to get help and sort out all her anger problems.  Maybe a seeing a counciler will help.

Your not a failure as a mummy at all hun.  I do hope u get it all sorted and remeber we are all here for you xxx

Sending u big big cyber hugs xxx

Posted: 04 July 2006 at 8:20pm | IP Logged

aw hazy, I don't know what to say - I don't know what I'd do in this situation but I don't think that hitting her back is the answer at all, that behaviour is wrong, hitting her back will just show her that it is ok to do that, which it most certainly is not. 

I haven't any advice I'm afraid, but just wanted to send you a big hug, Greedy, xx 

Posted: 04 July 2006 at 8:35pm | IP Logged

Firstly, sending big hugs, Hazy.

I haven't had any experience of this, but have you thought about seeing a relationship counsellor?  Maybe he or she can work out where all this aggression is coming from and advise you both how to tackle it.

Good luck.