Joined: 11 June 2005 United Kingdom Posts: 3847 Gender: Female
Posted: 21 February 2007 at 11:13am | IP Logged
Since I became PG with my first I lost my sex drive, that was back in 1997. How I went on to have 3 more children after that I'll never know. Turns out for me it was the man! I'm now in a new relationship and when we're together (which isn't often) we're like rabbits. A few time a week would have been a godsend for my ex, he was lucky to get it a few times a year for the last few years. It sounds to me like your sexlife is rather healthy compared to most...dont worry about it!
Joined: 07 June 2006 United Kingdom Posts: 4088 Gender: Female
Posted: 21 February 2007 at 6:18pm | IP Logged
Erm.....erm....its just the chemo putting a dampner on things for me for a week or so at a time. Rest of the time, rampantness rules. Mind you, I suppose Joe being away all the time before i got diagnosed was the same as lack of sex drive, cos he wasnt here for me to get any lol. OMG thats almost 3 nd half years...thats just wrong for me. As for things to do, whatever works for you, be it diy, fantasy whatever, fill your boots lifes too short
Joined: 12 June 2005 United Kingdom Posts: 8750 Gender: Not Specified
Posted: 21 February 2007 at 8:02pm | IP Logged
I lost interest in sex after the birth of my sons. Unbeknowing to me I was also suffering from PND, which wasn't actually diagnosed until 2 years later after I split from my husband. It is, of course, a symptom of depression, but I never clicked.
Then I went through a phase of feeling like a raging nymph. Then had sex and felt good. Unfortunately, realised it was meaningless without the connection and am now back to square one!!
I enjoy the flirting, but the barriers are well and truly up this time!
Sorry to hi-jack the post. May your libido return with a vengence.
Edited by MUM2MAXTOM on 21 February 2007 at 8:11pm
Joined: 19 December 2006 United States Posts: 601 Gender: Female
Posted: 21 February 2007 at 11:51pm | IP Logged
Before i was pg, i never had labido until i was hormonal rised during and wanted more..since giving birth, we had sex for the first time and so, that is once this month for him LOL. I ve heard that we actually have to use or lose it..so to save this marriage from hitting the walls one day..i will make it a chore until all will come as often and natural as possible..considering the cercumstances of course.
Joined: 14 October 2006 United Kingdom Posts: 447 Gender: Female
Posted: 22 February 2007 at 3:10pm | IP Logged
erm... nope, you're definitely not the only one (as you can from the posts)..
I'm soo glad that you asked this one as it's the type of question that you want to ask but are sometimes too embarassed to. I'm exactly the same, when hubby and I met, we are it at least 3/4 times a day and we quite literally couldn't get enough of each other.. We got married a year and half after we met and discovered I was pregnant two weeks after the wedding (so much for the pill eh? especially when i was told due to endometriosis that it was highly unlikely that i would be able to conceive). As I had a hellish pregnancy (I'm convinced it's an allergy for me) I certainly didn't feel like it much then and once Caitlin was born I never really re-discovered that 'spark'.. there were occasions when I did feel like it but it wasn't very often... Now, I never do!! I do try to make an effort every so often for hubby's sake but I really could just take it or leave it.. I don't know whether that's all down to the DSP as it's just toooo painful, or whether the hysterectomy has maybe had an effect too.. all i do know is that i'm really not interested at all and i feel really guilty about that, especially as i'm only 35 and would like to have an 'active' sex life with my hubby....
Joined: 24 October 2005 United Kingdom Posts: 4540 Gender: Female
Posted: 22 February 2007 at 3:15pm | IP Logged
Me and my fiance have been together 8 and 1/2 years and have 2 kids together plus my dd. TBH a few times a week is excellent. We manage 3-4 times a month if that ! I'm sure the youngest has a built in sensor that makes him whinge if there is the slightest chance of mummy and daddy being naughty !
Joined: 23 February 2007 United Kingdom Posts: 81 Gender: Female
Posted: 23 February 2007 at 10:08pm | IP Logged
glad im not the only one here, i cant even be bothered to have sex anymore, since charlie was born 10 weeks ago we only had sex twice, i have never really had a big sex drive but now itsj ust non existant and por jamie thinks its personal
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