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Posted: 01 March 2007 at 2:18pm | IP Logged

how did it go at the doctors lina?

Posted: 13 March 2007 at 12:07am | IP Logged

Aww Lina this must be such a hard time for you. Its no wonder you feel this way!

I hope as Kaitlyn starts to feel better you will too. Take your own advice and sleep when you can and rest as much as possible and dont hesitate to go back to your doctor if you dont feel better or feel any worse.

I'm so glad you have your baby home! Give her a hug from me - and give yourself one too - you deserve it!

Posted: 13 March 2007 at 12:36am | IP Logged

Hunny, firstly I just want to say that I'm really, really sorry that I haven't replied to this thread sooner as I've only just picked it up..

I totally agree with all the other mums on here, you are anything but a bad mother, so please, please don't think it, say it or ask it!!! Kaitlyn will sometimes be more unsettled with you than others because she knows at this early stage that you are her main care giver so when she's with you she's trying to tell you whats wrong.. (my first was exactly the same which only served to fuel my feelings of totally inadequacy even more) unfortunately, none of us have been provided with a 'text book' on how raise a baby/chilren, we've just got to love, protect  & support them and do the best we can for them..  

I remember I used to actually resent hubby going out to work, and even though he had a hard day, I still saw it as him 'getting out'.. it took a while for me to understand Caitlins needs and to build up a pattern/routine but when we did, it made such a difference.  One of my favourite times of the day was when I would ly down with her either beside or on top of me and we'd both fall asleep like that - the housework can definitely wait.. feeling more rested is one of the best 'medications' you can get and it helps you to cope with the rest of the day so much better.  In fact, she's nearly 7 now and I still miss those precious moments - she's at that "not another hug mum" stage whereas I felt really needed back then..

You will get through this tough time hunni, we mums are made of such tough stuff and it's all part of the learning process - a painful one at times I know but we all learn & grow from it hun..

Love to you, Kaitlyn & hubby...

Jen

Posted: 20 March 2007 at 6:36am | IP Logged

Am i considered depressed if im raging mad at my husband that i want to devorce him now??  I dont care if he has to support the family...its useless if he is not emotionally there because i can financially take care of my family. Urgggg!!! He has no respect for me since i am nolonger the holder of an unborn child. He forgot that he has to love me and the baby, not wifey is invisible!! I want to punch him in the eye and kick him where it hurts..sorry ladies..he hurt me so bad and i want it to be for the last time. can anyone give advice for marriage on this site LOL

breath..whoo whoo heeee.

Posted: 20 March 2007 at 10:43am | IP Logged

Aww Lina I have days like that.

I dont know about your dp but I know mine found the sudden jump into fatherhood a massive step. They react differently to us and his way of dealing with it was to retreat into his shell.

I find the best thing for us was to have a night off. My mum would have eds and we'd go out for a few drinks and a meal and I'd explain how he was making me feel. He just hadnt realised so he apologised and made the effort and it must have worked as we are getting married this year. Hes not perfect but I have learnt to wait until I am not angry and then tell him how much he upset he and he seems to be changing for the better.

You are still very hormonal following the birth and then with Kaitlyns problems you are probably feeling very tired and emotional. Have some time out and talk to hubby before you make any rash decisions.

Good luck!

Posted: 21 March 2007 at 1:03pm | IP Logged

aww lina i sometimes feel like you do,

can anyone watch after kaitlyn for the night so you and dh can have some time alone together?

dont make any rash decisions now, try talking to your husband first, he might also be feeling very stressed with everything thats going on.

luv bev.

Posted: 27 March 2007 at 3:22am | IP Logged

ive got the thinking...maybe if put a little effort into working out the problems..we would eventually be ok and better off. I guess the reason why we hadn't taken nights off is because  kaitlyn has been ill for almost three weeks and its been off and on now. that definately put alot of stress on our marriage and not having sex as the couple once did..sorry TMI.

but madz, the drinks would definately help wouldnt it?? yes it would. thanks again!