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Posted: 24 April 2006 at 11:44am | IP Logged

I have just been watching This Morning which featured Sunita (80's singer - So Macho).

She is unable to carry her own children after a number of operations she has had to remove fibroids have left alot of scar tissue when she was younger.

She contacted the COTS agency for a surrogate and has just found out that the lady she was matched with is now pregnant.  The baby has been formed with Sunitas egg and her husband Andy's sperm.  7 of Sunitas eggs were harvested, 4 fertilised and 2 were emplanted to the surrogate.  A scan in 10 days will show if she is pregnant with twins or not.

So my question is could you be a surrogate?  Would it be harder if it was acctually one of your eggs used?

Trudi.  xx

Posted: 24 April 2006 at 11:50am | IP Logged

I know in all honestly i couldnt

I found it hard enough dealing with pregnancy with the knowledge that i would hav my own beautiful baby at the end, no way could i carry a child then pass it on after birth regardless if it contained my dna or not

Good luck 2 sunita & her surrogate tho

Posted: 24 April 2006 at 11:55am | IP Logged

I'd love to be a surrogate mum, but i know i could never give up a child i had felt grow inside me and given birth to.

the only way i would do it is if my brother or either of my sisters were desperate for a child and couldn't have one.  I loved being pregnant....all 4 times.  I would love to be pregnant again, i just couldn't handle another baby.

my heart goes out to those who are able to do it and give a couple the chance to be a family

Posted: 24 April 2006 at 12:08pm | IP Logged

Personally, I couldn't do it. I just couldn't carry a child and then have to part with it. That said, if my sister had been unable to have kids, then maybe I could have done for her.

With egg donation, again, the only person I could have done it for would have been my sister. I know a girl who donated an egg to some friends and they had a little boy. He looks exacty like the lady who donated the egg and I know she finds it incredable hard when she sees him. In a way it must be harder for friends as you still see the child.

Thats just my feeling..

Posted: 24 April 2006 at 12:18pm | IP Logged

I couldnt be a surrogate mum. I loved being pregnant, even after all the problems I had, but I could never give the baby up afterwards. as others have said I would do it for my brother if it turned out he couldnt but that is a long way off (he's 17!).

I would consider egg donation but not to people I know (other than family) for the reason Dizie stated.

I admire women who can do this but for me it wouldnt be possible. The strain pregnancy can put on a relationship would also make it harder. I dont think me and DP would survive another pregnancy if we weren't going to get our own baby after it.

Posted: 24 April 2006 at 12:24pm | IP Logged

I think i would be able to do egg donation as you will never acctually see the baby.  Its an operation you go into hospital for and then come home a few days later.

After baby number 3 its something i am really gonna look into.

Trudi.  xx

Posted: 24 April 2006 at 1:39pm | IP Logged

no i wouldn't n couldn't do it

i would find giving my baby up too painful

i admire those women who can though

Posted: 24 April 2006 at 1:50pm | IP Logged

i honestly couldnt be a surrogate, but like trudi i would donate my eggs to help some-body else,

like a few of you have already said about the bonding while pregnant i also found that too and i know would be heart breaking handing the baby over to somebody else,

fair-play to the women who are up for it as there giving couples the joys of having children,

hope all works out for sunita, i used to love her when i was younger "toyboy" sad i know lol,

Posted: 24 April 2006 at 2:17pm | IP Logged

No, i couldnt be a surrogte mum, for all of the reasons stated above.

i dont even think id be able to be a surrogate for my sisters and brother as id find it too hard to give the baby up after birth, and i'd find myself constantly questioning my desicion and proberbly critising the way they are rasing the child even though it wasnt anything to do with me.

this will proberbly sound incredibly selfish but i dont even think i could be an egg donor as id constantly be thinking about the babies that were born as the result of using my eggs

nope i couldnt do it