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becky84
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Posted: 21 September 2007 at 7:46pm \| IP Logged

hi all ,

im feeling abit down and upset at the mo because im not sure if trying for a baby is the right thing we looked after my nephew today who has just turned 1 and i felt like all i did was say no he kept doing naughty things like keep tackiling the stairs (he has none at hone) and eating my phones and remotes i know he is only one but my sister doesnt have to many 'rules' and not much of a routine so he wouldnt eat his dinner either.

So now im wondering if i would cope having my own baby and maybe we shouldnt have one i hate thinking like this as you all know how much i would a baby of our own .

sorry for the grumble x

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Posted: 21 September 2007 at 7:58pm \| IP Logged

Nooo, dont be sorry. Becky, every baby is different and by the time your child/ren reach your nephew's age, you will be used to each other and you will cope just fine hunny. Im sure you will have established rules and routine so it wont be so difficult. You will be fine hunny xxxx

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Posted: 21 September 2007 at 7:59pm \| IP Logged

Becky, please please please don't think for one moment that you wouldn't be a good Mum because I don't believe that thats anywhere near the truth.

If you had a 1 year old, chances are you'd have a stair gate so he/she wouldn't be tackling the stairs and equally, the remotes, phones, handbags and other things that 1 year olds like to turn into chew things would probably all be higher up or out of the way. And as you'll have read on here and seen today that kids don't seem to get that if they don't eat their tea, they'll be hungry later on.

Its nothing you did, I have days where I spend my whole day saying no, get off that, put that down, don't hit that etc etc. They all do it but when you spend more time with them, you get to see the good bits too.

Please don't be put off, hang on in there and when it happens, I'm sure that you'll be a fantastic Mum.

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Posted: 21 September 2007 at 8:03pm \| IP Logged

Ive started saying no in alternate Welsh and English just so I dont sound like a broken down record with Joshua. You will be a fab mum and like said once you have your own you will adapt with each other and already have things in place (like the stairgate). No is a very common word used in a household where kids reside, least you didnt let him climb the stairs or put something in his mouth that may have hurt! Hugz babe xxxxxxxxxx

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Posted: 21 September 2007 at 8:09pm \| IP Logged

thank you ladies now i want to cry because you have all been so kind x

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Posted: 21 September 2007 at 8:13pm \| IP Logged

Hun, don't be sorry, trust us all when we say...

When it's your own kids it's easier, you have your house child proofed the the needs of you and your child/children. You will have your own rules and routine, as everyone is different with their children.

All children put us through stages of us saying no it's them testing the bounaries then they turn it on us and say no all the time even when they mean yes! It's a juggling game hun but if you've survied today and you can imagine relaxing in quite time then i'd say yes.

No one is perfect and we're all learning all the time, which is why this site is so benifical to all of us.... hints, help, suggestions or a shoulder to lean on from others who have been there and who are going or facing the same.

Take care hun.... good luck and you will be fab. we all know it

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Posted: 21 September 2007 at 8:19pm \| IP Logged

aw bless you..you'll be a fab mum, I'm sure of it...all you can do is try and be the best mum that you can be...you will make mistakes, everybody does because it's all new! I used to look after my niece and nephew and then collapse into a big heap when they'd gone home!

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Posted: 21 September 2007 at 8:32pm \| IP Logged

It is a whole, completely different ball game when you're dealing with other folks' kids, even if they're close relatives.

You will be an amazing mum, I'm absolutely sure of it.

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Posted: 21 September 2007 at 8:33pm \| IP Logged

YES!!

And that's all I have to say

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Posted: 21 September 2007 at 9:02pm \| IP Logged

I was never maternal and couldn't interact with my husbands nieces and nephews at all but when I had lotte it is soooo different,you adjust naturally without thinking about it. she is going through the terrible twos now which are hard but she is so rewarding.

so don't be so hard on yourself,

You will be great x x

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