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Posted: 20 April 2008 at 12:47pm \| IP Logged

well firstly a huge sorry to zanynut...huni I got the clothes they are fab but hardly been online due to goings on and couldnt txt as had no credit.

I have to let you all know the lastest smack in the face ive recieved. Rob Took brandon for a few hours yesterday.....all well and good....and then, I find out that he took him.......TO MY REAL MUMS! ok, so whats odd there you might think, well the fact that she left me when I was 5, didnt make contact until brandon was born where she made out she wanted to know us again for a bit and then couldnt be bothered yet again, so we havent seen or heard from her for nearly a yr. I am devastated. getting back in touch with her the 1st time round was a Huge mistake, and nearly split me up from my family so to know that rob could do this when I specifically told him I DID NOT want brandon round there has really hurt me badly. However, I was trying to play the nie friendly card letting him see lil man as and when it suited him and putting up with having ppl tell me about his latest blond tramp......that is no longer the case. I am going to see if I can recieve legal aid, get set days for him to see MY son and if he cant make those days TOUGH! I am also going to see what I can do about not letting him take brandon down there again. I am so mad right now I am shaking but I am through with playing nice, easy, lenient Nat

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Posted: 20 April 2008 at 1:38pm \| IP Logged

I'm really sorry to hear you have yet again, been taken for a mug hun.
No wonder you feel so angry, and betrayed.. i would be exactly the same, if my ex had taken my child to somewhere you had strictly mentioned not to!
It sounds like you would be better off, the both of you.. getting proper access sorted out, so you both know where you stand concerning visitation and what can and cant be done during that time.
I can only imagine how stressed out you must be feeling, not just about this latest episode, but everything thats gone on recently.
It cant be good for you, so you do what you think is right!
Please try not to dwell on things like his new piece of skirt.. she has landed herself with your ex now, so im sure in time she will realise the same things you have had to,
You just keep on being strong and take good care of yourself and your little boy.
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Posted: 20 April 2008 at 3:39pm \| IP Logged

I have a similar problem with my Father. I did not want my daughters to do and stay there when they were younger because my Father is an alcoholic and not a very nice person. However, my ex lets them both go down there on their own. Hayley is old enough to make her own mind up now and Fran has seen my father for what he really is but it used to really upset me that my ex would let them go there when he knew how I felt about it. I tried to speak to him once and he just said it was my problem....

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Posted: 20 April 2008 at 7:42pm \| IP Logged

Hun

Hugs...... as you know i've been there done that and have brought the t-shirt..... i can understand why you've fliped hun my ex did a similar and it's not fair on you.... you need to set up a table of visitation with rules which will be in brandon's best intrest (not yours as it sounds better this way). This needs to be established so he can have a routine and he knows where he stands as a little bit here and there will only confuse and cause problems. As for getting supervised visitation i'm not fully aware of the situation but if you are concerned about young man and his safety then i don't see it being an issue.

Good luck hun it's a tough road.... see a solicitor about legal aid and the cab......

Huge hug! X

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