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Posted: 12 September 2007 at 8:39pm | IP Logged

hi guys, im so confused lately a few weeks ago i was thinking that i didnt want any more children and now i find myself looking at dd and thinking i would like a little brother or sister for her. however im still painfully aware that we have not got the room for another one and im also scared that as abi was premature and the terrible time i had with her in itu and scbu that the next one will be the same.

im just so confused at the moment and all i can get out of dp is you have to what is right for you and what ever you want, but its not just what i want it is a joint decision.

thanks for listening

Posted: 14 September 2007 at 12:16am | IP Logged

Hi!

I know how you feel about your fear of another prem baby. My dd was prem (8 weeks) and I (as all mums in special care units everywhere) had an awful time after her birht until we could finally bring her home.

I say, go for it! (well, convince your dh first!),  I have to brothers both younger than me and I love them so much and have lots of fun with them. It is really nice having sibblings! ... I'm definitely going for another one sometime soon!!!!!

About the next baby being prem, when I asked in hosp about it, they told me that unless there is a medical condition that caused the early delivery, we have the same chances as any other woman. To be honest if I was to have another prem baby at least it wouldn't be such an alien experience as the first time, and at the end of the day the main thing is that all works out fine and they are able to come home healthy and ready to star a wonderful life. 

We are lucky, you know? because our dughters were strong, and made it, and are now well and happy. That is what matters.

How old is your dd?  

Sorry for the  far too long reply....

Isabel

Posted: 14 September 2007 at 10:19am | IP Logged

i agree with sam about the space situation,you deal with it,because you have to,and it becomes less of a problem than you imagined,as for your dp,you need to tell him how you feel and explian the pros and cons so to speak and as for his view on it,say that you dont feel it is just down to you,it takes two to tango.

xxxx

Posted: 17 September 2007 at 3:36pm | IP Logged

thanks for your replies im sorry ive not replied our laptop has been on the blink.

to answer some of your questions, abi our dd has got her own room so i guess the new arival could go in there. the reason why i had an emergency c section and she was prem was because of placental abruption where the placent comes away from the wall and was starving her of oxygen if i hadn't have gone up the hospital when i did we may both not be here today.

anyway me and dp have had a chat over the weekend and we are going to start trying to concieve possibly later in the year.

Posted: 17 September 2007 at 4:57pm | IP Logged

awww congrats im glad youv made the decision either way.

good luck xxx