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Posted: 18 August 2007 at 12:38pm | IP Logged
This is a genuine question from someone who has never done this before and has no idea at all and really shouldn't read books because they make her feel inadequate. On this occasion I'm not being neurotic, I just don't know what is right and what is wrong! AGHGH!
I started potty training Ella on Thursday as she'd been showing all the "right signs" etc and day 1 was a big success. Day 2 was OK although had its moments and today is OK so far. Now then, I don't expect her to just suddenly be potty perfect but she's stopped telling me that she needs a wee or poo. If I put her on the potty every 15 mins, she will go - we have big hugs, lots of whooping etc and a sticker on her chart. If I don't put her on the potty, we have an accident. Its no big deal, but asking her if she needs a wee or needs to use the potty makes no difference in fact if you ask her, she says no and then if you put her on anyway, she wees.
When she does a wee, she gets ever so excited but should I just be putting her on the potty every 15 mins or should I let her have more accidents and encourage her to ask? Seriously - I have no idea so please don't laugh at me....!
I've been writing down when we have wees etc and also when she has a drink - she drinks a lot. When she's had a drink, she will wee every 15 mins for an hour or so, but even when she does the biggest wee, she still doesn't ask. I'm really pleased with how its going, I just don't know what I should be doing...... HELP ME!
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Posted: 18 August 2007 at 1:15pm | IP Logged
Keep doing what you are doing chica..your doing fine.
Keep asking her if she needs to go..eventually shell figure it out. Keep plonking her on the potty every 20 mins or so..its still early days, and I reckon youll have cracked it completely in a couple of weeks.
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Posted: 18 August 2007 at 1:16pm | IP Logged
At first you do have to put them on the potty yourself however often you feel is appropriate to the amount she drinks. She won't assosciate the feeling of needing a wee with asking to go to the potty like we do. We know the feeling of needing a wee and then think oh I better go to the toilet, Ella doesn't have that assosciation yet. She can assosciate with being put on the potty as a command to wee that's why she will go. I would personally lengthen the time between when you put her on as long as you don't have accidents in between as you also want her to learn to hold on until she gets to the loo otherwise when you go out you will get nothing done other than visit every public toilet. Also as time goes on and she starts to ask to go for a wee you need to make more fuss of her then instead of when you put her on and she goes so she knows that's a really good thing to do. I did find my girls got the hang of it quite quickly but still used nappies for a while if we were going out for the day.
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Posted: 18 August 2007 at 3:41pm | IP Logged
She's still really young Dizie. After going through loads of stress trying to train Alex I just take the view that they'll do it when they're ready. Don't worry about pressure from others, especially those who'll tell you stories of wee ones trained at just over a year and a half. (My mother and her generation are great at making us modern mums feel totally inadequate about this subject! Just ask how many trainer pants they had to wash out in a day!)
Eventually they go longer between wees and when their language gets a bit better and their control of the bladder gets better they're really ready. Emilie at the moment will use the potty if I put her in wee pants in the house, but as she wees all the time I know she'll not be fully trained for a while yet. She can't tell me everytime she needs to go and sometimes if she's playing she'll forget and have a wee accident. I'm still using pull-ups when we go anywhere and I'm not stressed about it, although there's the brigade who say "you must NOT use pull-ups and ordinary pants when training as they'll be confused and scarred for LIFE (cue evil laughter).
When she fully trains you'll be saying "what was all that hassle about!" Hope that helps a "wee" bit matey!
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Posted: 18 August 2007 at 4:26pm | IP Logged
well I'm no expert but I never once put Ellie on the potty or toilet unless she asked to go or said yes if I asked her if she needed to (we asked her about every 10 mins or so at first but she got very cross with us so we extended it to avery 20 mins or so) - it never occurred to me to put her on every so often in the hope of getting her to wee - she's so awkward she wouldn't have gone anyway lol
- I think if you ask Ella and she says no, then don't put her on...if she then has an accident, just tell her that next time to tell you that she needs to go - but don't tell her off obviously!
in fact, when we started Ellie wouldn't use the potty at all so we went straight to the loo...she uses the potty now because when we're in the car, she has no choice - and she has now started to go on the potty herself without telling us she needs to go..
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Posted: 21 August 2007 at 5:53pm | IP Logged
We're halfway through training Ben, and its going ok. I find he also says 'no' when I ask him if he needs to go, so I've been telling him instead, 'lets go try potty'. We still have accidents nearly every day, and he's been in training pants for just over 2 weeks now. The worst is when he poohs in them, yuck!! Enough to make me wish I'd never started sometimes! But I think we're doing well.
Keep trying hun, and soon you'll realise shes doing it without being prompted. I too keep a track of when he goes, and when he has accidents, but sometimes I get too focussed on what he does each hr instead of looking at the week as a whole. Some days he goes dry! Just keep doing what you're doing, and she'll hopefully get the hang soon
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Posted: 21 August 2007 at 8:15pm | IP Logged
I'm clueless on potty training - Ethan was a piece of cake to potty train, 3 days after his 2nd birthday he started using the potty and within a week was completely dry in the day. Ellie does sit on the potty but never does anything in it. They've started sitting her on it at nursery too just to get her use to it. I know she'll do it when she's ready. My nana has been asking since she was about 18 mths if she was using the potty yet - grrr
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Posted: 21 August 2007 at 8:27pm | IP Logged
Right, we are trying a new approach and so far so good. After a lengthy chat/sob to my sister, she suggested putting her in trousers as well as pants so that when she had an accident, she could actually feel it and would be uncomfortable. Also, I stopped just putting her on the potty and kept asking her waiting for her to say she needed to go.
Since then, she's doing really well! She's having about 2 accidents a day, which I think is brilliant, and is getting much more aware. What I was most bothered about was that she was going so often and as Rachel pointed out, although she knew she needed to go, she might not have had the muscle control to hold it for longer than 15 mins.
But, so far so good. Am so pleased as I was really worried that I'd miss-read it and she wasn't ready. I was so determind to only potty train her when she was ready and not because people (MIL) were telling me too, that I just thought I'd ballsed it all up.
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Posted: 21 August 2007 at 9:03pm | IP Logged
Sorry im useless! lol Emily is 27 months and has done wees in potty but not that interested...i really dont have any clue how to do it but have felt a little stressed about it but thats onyl because everyone elses children of same age seems to be trainin but i know they all do it at different ages! I hope she carrys on doign really well! i know with potty training ure suppose to go the full way or nothin at all else its confusing i jsut dont know exactly when she will be ready?
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