Joined: 24 October 2005 United Kingdom Posts: 4564 Gender: Female
Posted: 09 January 2008 at 3:23pm | IP Logged
Adam is still refusing to use the loo or potty. In fact he hates the potty, wont even sit on it. I thought, fine we'll just by-pass the potty and use the loo. NOPE !! He wont pull his pants down, sits there for ages then gets off and wee's on the floor !!
He's meant to be at nursery in April and I really wanted him out of pull ups by then. Tried giving him stickers etc,b ut to no avail. Any other ideas ?
Joined: 14 June 2005 United Kingdom Posts: 2358 Gender: Female
Posted: 09 January 2008 at 3:28pm | IP Logged
I am having the same thing with meg! She is 3 in april, she will not sit on a potty, so i bought a kid loo seat, which she won't sit on...she'll gladly make me sit on the loo though lol! I have tried stickers, but she just sat on the potty, didnt do anything, got back up and pee'd! The hv keeps nagging me to get it done, but i cant, without traumatising her lol! I have never had to PT a child before, i'm a new mum in this respect!
Joined: 27 February 2006 United Kingdom Posts: 2239 Gender: Female
Posted: 09 January 2008 at 3:46pm | IP Logged
The hospital recommend putting lo's on the loo in the afternoon for a poo as this is the most likely time for them to poo apparantly, they suggest you can read with them or get some sticker books to keep them amused for a while, as they need to relax enough to go to the loo.
My ds is 4 and still has a major issue with the toilet.
Joined: 11 June 2005 United Kingdom Posts: 3869 Gender: Female
Posted: 09 January 2008 at 4:07pm | IP Logged
I've just started trying to potty train Aimee again today, she'll be 3 in April. We went out yesterday, bought loads of knickers and we're gonna see if she's ready. I'm lucky that she loves copying Katie and going to the toilet, she prefers that to the potty.
I'm not really sure what to suggest besides the sticker thing. How about a childs jigsaw, each time he goes to the potty or toilet you let him add a piece to the puzzle, when he's completed the puzzle he can have a small treat.
As for me, so far so good, just 1 small accident...lets hope she's ready!
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Posted: 09 January 2008 at 4:25pm | IP Logged
Alot of children who were in my sons nursery class ( aged 3 and 4) were not toilet trained. It had nothing to do with intelligence or development and when these children were ready they were toilet trained really quickly.
Stop sweating it is not unusual ( despite what nursery teachers say!!!) I would remove the pressure, it is no slight on him or you. Let him have access to the potty and constantly ask but relax until he shows an interest
Joined: 15 December 2005 United Kingdom Posts: 4410 Gender: Female
Posted: 09 January 2008 at 6:22pm | IP Logged
I would just wait until he is ready. Sam if i was you hunny tell your hv to sod off. All children are different and they will do it when they are good and ready. Just praise them for sitting on the loo or potty and when they do something on it treat them. Again with lots of praise they will then know they are doing something good and something you like them to do. I was pretty lucky with the girls they were potty trained near enough straight away in spring last year and they just turned 3 on Sat. They are still not ready for pants at night and still have accidents now. You are doing the right thing by letting them lead you. Like you said other than scaring them to death theres not an awful lot more you can do. xxxxxxxx
Joined: 12 June 2005 United Kingdom Posts: 8762 Gender: Not Specified
Posted: 09 January 2008 at 6:58pm | IP Logged
Sorry got no sound advice, just that although Tom is great at wee'ing on the potty he refuses to do the 'other' on it.
In fact, the little sausage shouts for his nappy and holds it in until he feels secure. In the past I've tried not giving in, but then he gets constipated and sore and the wee mites ends up sobbing so we have a system going now.
During the day he wears pants, but have nappies on stand by for when he want's do 'the other'. Wees are done on the potty: simple, really.
No amount of rewarding, praise or bribery will get that little lad to do 'the other' on the potty just yet so I'm not gonna sweat it.
I've learned to relax and go with the flow (so to speak).
Joined: 11 June 2005 United Kingdom Posts: 5994 Gender: Female
Posted: 09 January 2008 at 8:20pm | IP Logged
I wouldn't worry they all do it in their own time you don't see many 18 year olds waring nappies.... It's a developmental mile stone the same as walking and talking they all do it in their own time. Don't push it if he's not ready try again gently in a months time. Incedentally what are you using on his bum inbetween trying the loo or the toilet. Keith had been using pull ups on Ollie until christmas when I took charge!! No pull ups or nappies normal pants and jogging bottoms. I knew Ols knew when he needed the loo so it was just getting the ascociation into his head. One good soaking in a pair of normal pants and jogging bottoms did the trick, he didn't like it and got upset. I comforted him and explained that's what happens when you don't use the loo and he's been fine since which is just about 2-3 weeks now. He still has the odd accident.
Once they know when they need the loo. Know it's not a nice feeling if they wet themselves they normally get it fairly quickly. Don't push it though and don't get stressed you all need to be relaxed about it and ready to try again. Still plenty of time yet.
Joined: 27 January 2007 United Kingdom Posts: 191 Gender: Female
Posted: 17 January 2008 at 6:03pm | IP Logged
My DD is now 3 yrs and 4 months and still in pull ups as she never seems to have a regular bowel movement. I've put her in knickers a few times but she still had number 2 accidents. She pretty good on wanting to go for wees and staying dry.
Although I do have an issue with a local nursery leaving her in a dirty pull-on again this Monday! I heard the same senario with two others in my local area. That's another issue, though. Don't get me wrong, there's good nurseries too. If it wasn't for a lack of places I'd send here all week where I'm studying as I've asked around & their kids always are handed back clean & dry. I've been told they even make a point of changing them for mum/dad/carer if their still in nappies before they are given back.
With hindsight I'd make a point of asking mums/dads/carers who use the nursery if they'd had any issues with nappy changing but I wouldn't fret about sending a child to nursery who isn't quite potty trained.
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