Joined: 13 June 2005 United Kingdom Posts: 8421 Gender: Female
Posted: 12 August 2008 at 11:39am | IP Logged
Edward was 3 in April and due to start nursery mid september. I really wanted him potty trained by the time we go. However everytime I try it he just doesnt seem to 'get it'. Or he'll do well for a few days and then fail completely.
What do I do? Do I wait and hope he soon shows signs of being ready? Or do I persevere and put up with the accidents?
I am so stuck! I am so sore and so tired and I dont know what to do for the best anymore.
Joined: 27 February 2006 United Kingdom Posts: 2205 Gender: Female
Posted: 12 August 2008 at 12:25pm | IP Logged
My ds is still not dry during the night and he is 5 now, he still has accidents of the number 2 variety during the day aswell but he is getting so much better, i think it depends on the maturity level, my ds is very indepent in some things but not in other ways and this is one of them, i know it challeneging at the best of times, and for you it must be very difficult (understatement) i would keep asking him and keep the pants on, not naked, as this created a whole new problem after we had mastered the naked weeing, it was like starting all over again, good luck if you try.
Joined: 17 June 2005 United Kingdom Posts: 4933 Gender: Female
Posted: 12 August 2008 at 1:03pm | IP Logged
Madz, boys are known for being potty trained later because most are lazy.
Harrison wasn't PT until 3 weeks before he was due to start nursery and then he had the odd accident. He wasn't out of nappies for bed until the December.
If you really want him PT then put up with the accidents as if he's in pants and doing well for a few days then he has accidents and he's put back in pull ups it'll confuse him more. I got Louis training pants from Mothercare when we were PT they look like a knicker but have a terry toweling lining and are also lined with PVC so he can feel wet but it wont wet his clothes.
I was lucky with Louis but Harrison was a nightmare. I put up posters in the bathroom of his favourite characters with "dont forget to wash you hands" and 'Flush the chain' etc then I'd say "come on lets go and see Bob the builder' and I'd leave a book there and read him a bit of the story so keep him preoccupied so that he's sit and wee without getting bored. he loved going to the toilet.
I know its hard with you not getting about much but can your mum or anyone help take him frequently to the toilet till he learns? I used to take Louis every 15-20 mins until he got the hang of it.
Joined: 27 October 2005 United Kingdom Posts: 1605 Gender: Female
Posted: 12 August 2008 at 1:57pm | IP Logged
Madz, you are not the only one. Harry was 3 in May and is still in nappies / pull ups. He starts nursery on Thurs and I didn't want him going in pull ups, makes me feel like a failure.
This week we have been really trying but as Rin says he is just lazy like many boys. He actually asked to use the toilet today and did a wee but a few hours later he was wet again and at long last he knows when he has a dirty nappy. I am really hoping that seeing the other children at nursery without nappies will encourage him.
Sorry I am not much help but just wanted to let you know you are not alone.
Joined: 11 June 2005 United Kingdom Posts: 8513 Gender: Female
Posted: 12 August 2008 at 4:03pm | IP Logged
I am in agreement, boys are lazier when potty training compared to girls, ds1 wasn't trained til a few days before he went to nursery the september after his 3rd birthday) ds2, I don't remember what he was like, dd was excellent, Fred is also not willing to be trained. He has to be out of trainer pants for school, although they will take him to the toilet, they won't actually change him, and definitely not if he does a poo, so I am at the oint where I am not sure what is happening. The special needs unit he will be attending is different though, they are quite happy to change wet or dirty nappies or pants. So I would say leave it for a couple of weeks and start again.
Joined: 11 September 2007 United Kingdom Posts: 2736 Gender: Female
Posted: 12 August 2008 at 4:37pm | IP Logged
Madz, a slightly different prespective.... If your in pain and struggling i personnally would stop trying.... eds is so sensitive and aware of how much pain you are in (kids just seem to know no matter how hard you try and hide it).... it might be he doesn't want to upset you or doesn't want anything else to change or just that he's too busy concentrating on everything else... he'll get it when he's ready... you never know being the only one at nursery in nappies/pull ups might spur him on
Joined: 22 November 2006 United Kingdom Posts: 1555 Gender: Female
Posted: 12 August 2008 at 4:39pm | IP Logged
I've been potty trainig with Ben since last year and he's still not great! We still have nearly daily accidents. He's nowhere near ready to be out of nappies at night!! He'll be 4 in September. At preschool I just make sure he has a change of pants and trousers in his bag. The staff are really good and he's by no means the only one who has accidents at preschool. I think you just need to keep at, try not to give up, he WILL do it eventually!! Wish we had a definate date though, eh? lol
Joined: 24 October 2005 United Kingdom Posts: 4540 Gender: Female
Posted: 12 August 2008 at 6:55pm | IP Logged
Boys are so lazy. I honestly had visions of Adam going to school in nappies at one point. If you are too sore to deal with it just now, give him another couple of weeks, then try again. Adam shocked me, had him trained all day within a week.
Joined: 17 June 2005 United Kingdom Posts: 3706 Gender: Female
Posted: 13 August 2008 at 12:11am | IP Logged
Madz- I've told you umpteen times- don't worry, he will get it eventually! Being at nursery will bring him on too. Loads of wee boys aren't trained fully at his age and the night-time dryness takes lots longer usually. PS- you're not "still failing"- he's just not fully ready.
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