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Posted: 23 February 2007 at 10:19pm | IP Logged

 since havin charlie i have become very sad about not bein pg anymore and it makes me cry,i never had this with my other 2, and im not sure if its hormones or pnd but every day i wake up and i cry coz i miss the whole feelin of bein pg, as i know tihs is my last too...maybe that doesnt help!

it doesnt help matters that my sister is 27 wks pg either, im just so broody, when i see a pg woman i feel so jealous but i dunno why, please tell me im not only one like this i love charlie to bits but i cant help but miss him kickin inside of me!

Posted: 23 February 2007 at 10:26pm | IP Logged

Well i know this was how i felt after having my twin girls.

I always had a bath every night more than once some times. Yes i do bath now but not everyday hehe...

I missed them soo much after i had them. I missed the bump also.

I think i found this the hardest. To be honest hun i think this is normal for most new mummy's but if this continues i would visit your gp and tell them how you feel. You may have the start of pnd. Especially if this is your last.

Just shout if you need to chat. xxx

Posted: 23 February 2007 at 10:53pm | IP Logged

no this is the thing, i wasnt like this with my other 2, but i wasnt havin anymore kids after my second, i was happy with 2, then i suffered a mc in nov '05 and i was devastated then it made me realise i wanted another baby, so we had charlie and i know we cant have anymore coz we dont have the room or the mobey, i guess thats why i feel sadder this time round!

i guess i just loved the attwntion of bein pg and now its all over noone wants to know u anymore!

oh i dunno, i cant make sense of it all

Posted: 23 February 2007 at 11:23pm | IP Logged

the feelin i miss is the whole excitement leadin up to the birth, and him kicking me and my expandin belly, it seems so pointless to alot of women ,what im posting here, coz alot wud say they are glad its all over , i was relived after he came out as i was in soo much pain, but i do think its coz i know my sis is due to have baby in may, where charlie is gettin alot of attention atm he want be when her baby arrives, and shannon n declan will be even more pushed out, coz its not just my sister havin baby but my sil too, due around the same time!im just also scared that my 3 kiddies wont have the attention anymore!

Am i making any sense at all?

Posted: 24 February 2007 at 8:13am | IP Logged

I think its natural to feel sad and upset about not being pregnant anymore, i was exactly same and I remember feeling similar things. 

When I was pg with Louis (my youngest) my sil was also pregnant.  She was due 10 weeks afer me but her baby came 7 weeks prem and was born with a disability, I thought exactly the same, I though my children were going to be pushed out especially by mil tbh, I think alot of women do but very few own up to it, but all the anxiety I was feeling I needent have bothered because they all get treated the same, and they are not loved any less just because a new baby comes along.  You may even be suprised, your sister having a baby so close to you having Charlie may bring you closer as you will be able to share experiences etc..

I had my eldest son and then seven weeks after that my youngest sister had a baby, then six weeks after that my elder sister had a baby, I thought the same then too, but we all bonded more because we were able to help each other out and it was really nice that we were all going through the same things together.

I would say though, if you have time maybe write down how your feeling from day to day and if your days dont get any brighter or your not feeling any better, I would talk to your HV or your GP and discuss your feelings.

Your hormones are still all up in the air so your still adjusting.

Posted: 24 February 2007 at 10:33am | IP Logged

thanks ladies i think ur right, they probably wont get pushed out, im just being silly!

i think i will keep a blog and write down how im feeling!

i used to and it really helped!

thanks again xxx

Posted: 24 February 2007 at 11:19am | IP Logged

i know exactly how you feel, after having amber i also missed being preg and still do i also knew she was gonna be my last as im getting sterilised in a bit,

you get all the attention whilst your preg and everyone asks you how you are but once baby arrives no one bothers asking how you are only asks bout the lo.

im sure the kids wont be pushed out.

hope you feel better soon hun and if you ever need a chat im always here.

luv bev.

Posted: 24 February 2007 at 1:39pm | IP Logged

thanks bev xxx